This mom shaming crap needs to stop

This mom shaming crap needs to stop

I’m not quiet when it comes to the mommy wars. I find moms judging other moms pretty much bullshit. Not a single one of us was handed a playbook in the hospital that mapped out the perfect child or the perfect road to parenting. We are all doing the best that we can.

Being a parent is hard. Period.

Is it okay to have a difference in opinion? Yes.

Is it okay to bash someone publicly? No.

This mom shaming shit needs to stop.

We have a bit of a sleeping problem in our house.

My son has started waking in the middle of the night. He has night terrors. Although I have tried on numerous occasions to get him back in his bed, the 3am tantrums are not worth it.

I let him in our bed.

I’m not an advocate of bed sharing. I dislike it tremendously. But, in order for all of us to get some form of sleep, it needs to be done.

I recently discussed this with two people who have children. Maybe this is the problem all together. Maybe turning to other parents is wrong.

The one was supportive and even shared that her tween daughter still occasionally gets in bed with them. The other mom…..

Not. So. Much.

She immediately bashed our choice stated “kids have NEVER been in our bed”. She couldn’t understand why we just didn’t let him cry since we don’t have any other children he would wake up. A person who knows we have suffered two losses. She even went as far as to suggesting I lock him in his room. And although her solutions to her children’s lack of sleep were not my belief, I just kept my mouth shut.

Want to know else is bullshit?

Breastfeeding vs. formula feeding.

Working moms vs. stay at home moms.

Bed sharing vs. non-bed sharing

Cloth diapers vs. regular diapers.

Organic vs. non-organic

The list goes on and on.

Can we just stop? Stop the mom shaming.

I wasn’t aware you were perfect. God knows I’m nowhere near it. For Pete’s Sake as I write this I’m sitting in my driveway with a coffee from Starbucks and a sleeping child.

A child I drove around to get him to take a nap.

Two days in a row.

Who wants to shame me for that?

My kid has stopped napping. Let me rephrase, my kid doesn’t want to take a fucking nap. He fights us. Boy does he fight us.

He’ll sleep. Don’t get me wrong. He wants to sleep. He needs the sleep. But without motor vehicle intervention, he ain’t sleeping.

Yes, I’ve become that mom. The mom who loads up their child at 1pm to “go to the store” or just for “a ride”. I have the child that falls asleep 5 minutes from home,usually as I’m ordering my Venti White Mocha from Starbucks. I drive home and sit in the driveway, log into our WIFI and surf the web until he wakes up.

Like I said, we have a sleeping problem in our house.

A problem a million moms across the country deal with. We all handle situations differently. What works for me might not work for you.

And vice versa.

I’m hard enough on myself. I certainly don’t need your guilt trip added onto it.

Can we just stop this mom shaming for once and for all?

Let’s just take it out on the dad’s instead. 😉

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