Category: Parenting

What do we refer to when we talk about “doing the work”?

All of us I believe, arrive at adulthood with slights of childhood still needing to be healed. For some, the more fortunate, the wound needs but a suture or two. But many of us have suffered damage that remains problematic for decades. And the healing process can be lengthy. Self-esteem and capacity for love and... Read more »

The faded sepia and black and white photographs are a century old, and I see myself in them

Driving east through Chicago on her road trip from the west coast, a cousin of mine called me from out the blue, fifty one years after I last saw her!  It took two dinners and hours of reminiscing to catch up with the scandals and accomplishments of aunts and uncles.  Then the laptop came out,... Read more »

I’m 88 years old and fifty years from now I’ll be having Thanksgiving dinner at my granddaughter’s house

I’m 88 years old and fifty years from now I’ll be having Thanksgiving dinner at my granddaughter’s house
This is my annual reprise of a favorite post. More than ever before, with the pandemic still raging and our emotions filtered behind a Zoom screen, it’s essential we let our loved ones know how dear they are to us. This is not a headline about spiking the stuffing with a psychotropic. It’s about the... Read more »
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How to add years of joy and meaning to life! (Secrets revealed – Part 1)

How to add years of joy and meaning to life!  (Secrets revealed – Part 1)
Four years ago I started writing this weekly post believing that sharing the experiences I encountered on the journey to Elderhood would help others traveling the path behind me. I’ve been distracted along the way, diverted by the country’s social unrest, a divisive political arena, my antipathy for the president and of course, most recently,... Read more »

For a glorious 2020 I offer the teachings of Hari Jiwan Singh

For a glorious 2020 I offer the teachings of Hari Jiwan Singh
I’ve written hundreds of posts acknowledging the difficult circumstances and problems that come with aging. Physical decline, psychological and emotional struggles, social and financial difficulties are inevitable as we grow older. It’s understandable that on occasion, “Why go on?” comes to the surface as a legitimate question. Many a morning, even as I write the... Read more »

Fame on social media is the new American Dream. Are we doomed?

Fame on social media is the new American Dream. Are we doomed?
In 2007, you became old. That was the year a hair dresser named Kim Kardashian flounced and flaunted her impressive bosom and derriere for all the world to behold, holding forth for forty-one minutes of made-for-video programming viewed to this day on the Pornhub web site, still earning her and third rate R&B singer Ray... Read more »
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Resigned to the expression, “No One is a Prophet in their Own Land”

Resigned to the expression,  “No One is a Prophet in their Own Land”
Earlier this month a colleague and I led a meaningful workshop that was emotionally profound and had a significant impact on participants’ lives. It was incredibly rewarding for me as well as the attendees. I remember a man in the group rationalizing a failed goal with endless excuses and blaming of others. Gently I led... Read more »

I’m 87 years old and fifty years from now I’ll be having Thanksgiving dinner at my granddaughter’s house

I’m 87 years old and fifty years from now I’ll be having Thanksgiving dinner at my granddaughter’s house
My annual Thanksgiving post published each year as long as my granddaughter and I grow a year older together. This is not a headline about spiking the stuffing with a psychotropic. It’s about the focus of these essays, cheating death by doing the things that give life joy and meaning. For me, of all the... Read more »

How my father and I won WWII

How my father and I won WWII
August 15 is an important historical date, the day 74 years ago when General McArthur declared Victory over Japan Day.  The personal reminiscences of the soldiers who stormed the beaches cannot help but humble every American blessed with the personal freedoms made possible by their sacrifices.  I, too, have memories of the fierce battles I... Read more »
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“Timing is Everything” Sighed the Second Aviator to Solo the Atlantic

“Timing is Everything” Sighed the Second Aviator to Solo the Atlantic
A favorite affirmation of mine is “I’m loved, loving and loveable.”  It’s a sweet day when that wish becomes true, a triple dip on a waffle cone.  It was my treat on Father’s Day, seated at the head of the table, daughters and granddaughter by my sides, wife and son-in-law serving up the drinks and... Read more »