Staying in the Moment: Interview with Free Spirited Mom Tiffany Coplen

For the month of May, I want to feature 31 women who continue to touch my life through their kindness, friendship, humor, passion, and determination. Each of these women have some great secrets as they open their doors and let me into their “mommy world”. Their stories bring us back to the realization that we all go through struggles, make mistakes, and sometimes need “to fake it until we make it” as parents. Join us as we celebrate these mothers throughout the month of May.

Welcome to Day 4 of our Mommy Blog Project! Today we get to feature one of the coolest moms I know: Tiffany Coplen. So, sit back, enjoy your coffee, and let’s learn more about Tiffany Coplen. 

Parenting Tip of the Day: Be more present with your kids. Put your phone down, play with them, and really listen. We all get caught up with life, but just once a day, for at least 5 minutes, shut your phone off and just be in the moment with your kids. In those moments, that is when you enter their world. Let them share that with you because it’s amazing. For more info on strategies visit Bulldog’s Parent Coaching.

I met Tiffany through my youngest sister and we quickly connected. The reason I love her is her compassion, strength, love, and great advice. She is wiser beyond her years, but she can make you laugh until you cry. She has this calmness about her, and whatever life throws at Tiffany she embraces it and dances!

Tiffany Coplen

Name: Tiffany Coplen
Mommy Title: “Get it Girl” My kids call me that. I just seem to get it! I also work part-time.
Location: Chicago, IL
Favorite Social Media Site: Facebook
Mommy Status: Married
Number of kids: 3
Age(s): 4 year old, 5 year old, 6 month old
Gender: 2 boys; 1 girl

Walk me through a day in your household.
We get up at 6am and our day starts right away. My main goal is for us to get them up and get ready for school. I cook breakfast, the kids play, and my son does karate. Then I get everyone dressed, and the kids ready. It is chaos: the baby needs to be fed, my daughter is playing dress up, my son is doing his karate across the house, and my husband is sleeping. It is crazy and I love it! We all get out the door to get to school by 9am. Then at 4pm it’s pick up time from the day care and we go either to the park, or take karate and dance classes some days. We get home and I prep for dinner, and I try to get everyone in bed by 8:30pm. As I am working on dinner, I make them do some homework and learn a little more. I push them to learn everyday. Then we play games and if it is nice out we play in the backyard. It is kind of crazy in the morning, but in the evening they mellow out. I also work part-time so that I am still able to spend time with them, take care of our home, cook, and clean. I used to be full-time, but with the baby it was too much, so I cut back.

Tiffany Coplen Favorite RoomWhat is your favorite room in the house and why?
My room…LOL. Honesty the living room. It is like a combined space and we spend a lot of time there. We talk about our day in the living room; it is our bonding place. We do those yoga classes on Comcast. It is the place where I can see them all at one time.

What is your favorite time of the day with your kids?
For me it is the morning because they are fresh and excited. It is a fun and chaotic time. I enjoy the chaos. They are happy and filled with energy.

What is a unique family tradition?
We always have a dance off. My oldest son will start and everyone joins in. My kids love music, it is an important part of our life.

What do you do when you are overwhelmed?
I have turned to my family, taken a step back, or I say that I need space. Sometimes I just need to get out of the house before I lose my mind. I can’t focus. I rely heavily on my support: friends and family. When I need help, I ask and I take time to go get a mani pedi, take a walk, or spend time with friends.

What is the best “uh-oh” story?
I locked the keys in the house. No, wait, my daughter shut the door behind her and we got looked out. I remember saying “Don’t shut the door, I still need to get some stuff.” As I turned around, I heard the door shut. The worst part was that my phone was inside. And the kids needed to be at school by 9am. I tried to get through the side window. My neighbors were not home, my husband was at work. So, it was a big mess. I was like, “What the hell am I going to do???” Then it started to rain. So I am standing in the rain with 3 kids. I decided to run to the store and borrow someone’s phone. Someone at the daycare was able to pick up the kids and then I needed to jump onto a bus downtown with the baby to get my husband keys. That was more like a “oh shit!” moment.

Which celebrity mom is most like you and why? 
We are most like the Modern Family. We have a mixture of personalities in our home. We are a mess, but in a loving good way. I am like Claire Dunphy. Overall, I like the way she manages her family. I am a non-traditional mom and I want my kids to be free and to make their own decisions. I like Modern Family, I can relate to that show!

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What is your favorite website or blog? 
I don’t do too much TV or spend time on the Internet. I would say that if I go to a website it is the Chicago Parent, I read that a lot. I am not big on TV or go on social sites, but Chicago Parent is a good one for me.

What advice would you give your younger self?
I would say do more, make yourself happy, and not worry about what others say or what they want you to do. I tried to please my mom. Do what you want to do. See the world as much as you can. I would have wanted to do that in my teens and twenties. I had to work and go to school, so I didn’t take advantage of all that I could do. I am a free spirit, so being in the moment is important and I want to fulfill my dreams.

What is your go to outfit?
Lululemon pants, gym shoes, and t-shirt. Go to outfits are all about comfort. Always keep your nails and hair done. That is the trick to look put-together, and the big earrings are a good thing too!

What is something you are pretending to know about but have no clue?
You know everyday is a process, a learning experience, and there is always something new. What I think I could do with one kid isn’t necessary true for the other. Not that I pretend to know, but it’s all about figuring it out.

What have you learned from your kids?
I learned to be patient and not to raise my voice. My kids will tell me: “Mom you are talking too loud.” I learned to be more understanding of others and about people with disabilities. The kids are so open and honest. They really taught me how to be patient.

If you could ask the universe one question what would it be?
How much time do I have with my kids?

What is the looming task on your to do list?
I need to paint my house! But, truly, I don’t have anything that is pressing that I need to get done. I try to not overwhelm myself. Nothing is a major priority except my kids and my home. So I just do as much as I can in a day and that is enough.

Closing thoughts, mantra, or advice:
Never apologize about how you raise your kids; we all make mistakes, so take it one day at a time. Your way is ok and it is the best way for your kids. You know them best.

In closing, I want to thank Tiffany for being honest, funny, and sharing how she tackles motherhood. In the interview, she had so much energy; she loves life and has fun everyday. Thank you Tiffany for making our worlds a little brighter. I promise I will keep dancing!

Until Next Time…

Kortney Peagram

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