I gave up country dancing but I wish I hadn't

I gave up country dancing more than 20 years ago, but I wish I hadn’t had to.

I danced several nights a week, and I was good at it!

Back in the early 1990’s, I’d spend hours in a country bar dancing. I was young, single, pretty and slim.

I had dance partners, friends and stangers by the dozens to hang out with and dance with.

I had the boots, the hat, the outfits; and I was GOOD at it. Oh, I said that, didn’t I?

The line dances were fun, but my passion was for the couples dances.

My favorite memories from my dancing years were the times I had a regular dance partner. 

The two-step, the double-two, the stationary cha-cha, the swing, the waltz and so many more, were the dances I did with a partner.

No, it wasn’t Dancing With the Stars, but we had fun!

I loved the music – Garth Brooks’ The Dance and Friends in Low Places, Billy Ray Cyrus’ Achey-Breaky Heart, and many, many more whose titles I can’t remember anymore.

Besides the fun and the social time, it was awesome exercise. I did not need a gym, because I spent hours dancing and sweating my butt off in a hot bar.

Then, three things happened:

First, I developed asthma – had my first asthma attack as an adult and discovered that cigarette smoke was one of my worst triggers.

Even though I had never smoked a cigarette in my life, I was exposing myself to the second-hand smoke by exercising in it. SMH! Could I make it any worse?

Back in the 1990’s, it was legal to smoke EVERYWHERE indoors, and I mean EVERYWHERE.

Going to bar meant coming home smelling like an ashtray, and for me, it also meant waking up the next day wheezing, with laryngitis. It was bad.

Second, I met my husband. We both loved the music and enjoyed going out to the country bars together, but the man can not dance.

Do you remember the Seinfeld episode with Elaine trying to dance? She was better than my guy is. I’m not kidding.

It quickly became very awkward for me to go out on the dance floor with another man and do the stationary cha-cha, my favorite dance.

There’s a bit of “grinding” involved and it was completely inappropriate, no matter what my guy said.

Third, the country bars fad was dying and losing patrons. One by one, all the local places closed.

When our main choice became the Cadillac Ranch in Bartlett, IL, it was time to call it quits.

So, I stopped dancing.

I was breathing better, but I gained weight almost immediately. I tried working out, but I’d rather be “doing” than exercising any day of the week.

My hubby and I “danced” our first dance at our wedding reception to Kenny Chesney’s Me and You; that was the last time we went dancing.

Oh my gosh, this just brought me to tears with beautiful memories. Yup, I’m the crier in the family!

I really loved dancing, but my heart belonged to my guy now. I couldn’t breath in the bars, and didn’t want to end up in an emergency room.

It was the right thing to do, to stop dancing.

So, I gave up country dancing, but I wish I hadn’t had to.

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John 15:13 (ESV)

13 Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.

Ephesians 5:31 (NIV)

31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”

Hebrews 13:4 (CEB)

4 Marriage must be honored in every respect, with no cheating on the relationship, because God will judge the sexually immoral person and the person who commits adultery.

Source: Biblegateway

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