How this mommy almost wasn't - my life's greatest challenge

Those of you that regularly read this blog know that I am a mom to both humans and furry creatures. This story is how this mommy almost wasn’t – my life’s greatest challenge faced and conquered.

Rewind time to spring of 1997. We were signing a contract on new construction WAY out in the boonies of Kendall County, IL. We were building a 3 bedroom, 2 1/2 bath house that we could raise a family in.

We didn’t have a family yet; we had only been married six months. However, we really wanted to have a house big enough to raise a couple of kids in.

Apparently, LOTS of people felt the same way, because within about 18-24 months, our 18 home cul-de-sac block had nearly every house built. It was really cool to watch.

We had parties, we had super fun with all our couple neighbors. Some had really little ones, but most of us were fairly newly married and not with child yet.

Fast forward a year or two or three, and WHOA, everyone was announcing pregnancies. Everyone but me.

Even friends that had been transferred to Oklahoma wrote back saying they were pregnant. Another couple that had tried and tried and lost ELEVEN pregnancies (I know, right?) was pregnant.

Me? Not so much. What did the doctors say? There was nothing wrong with us. Nothing. Huh?

We tried….and tried….and tried. Nothing. Babies were being born all around me. My baby sister even had a child before me. I cried….and cried….and cried.

I went to baby shower after baby shower. I was TRULY happy for each person, but I went home so sad and disheartened. They were some very tough years. I cried some more.

I prayed, too. I used those over-the-counter “pee on the stick for 5 days” fertility kits. I was never ovulating. Really? My body was certainly telling me otherwise.

Then, over the summer of 2001, my sister told me about a new digital fertility monitor. (We were opting to NOT go through in vitro or adoption for a myriad of reasons). The flipping thing was $200, and the test strips were another $50.

I couldn’t believe it, but I spent the money.

So what’s different about the Clear Blue Plan Digital Fertility Monitor? It doesn’t just test for 5 days. It has you test until it catches ovulation. Cool, huh? Then, it remembers in it’s little digital brain. Even cooler.

August of 2001, I started testing. Nothing….nothing…..nothing….for ALL of August…….into September…then suddenly – NOW!!!!! If it could have screamed the word at me it would have. September 3, 2001.

That date is significant to me for so many reasons, and you can read about those here.

September 11th, 2001, the terrorists attacked our nation and everyone was scared and angry, but mostly scared. September 15th, 2001, while running a fever and peeing blood from a UTI, I sang and played piano for a friend’s wedding.

After the reception, I dropped my hubby at home and drove to the medical center I once worked at to get treated. I was SICK.

They signed me in, brought me back to a room, drew blood (I warned them that we were trying to get pregnant) and called up my old paramedic partner, Bud to come sit with me. What a trooper he was, too, because it was very likely around 1am by that time.

After they treated a very critical person, a while later Doc Brian came back and said, “Well, do you want to be pregnant?”  I said, “Yes! We’ve been trying for nearly 4 years.”  “Well, good, cuz you are!”

It was a truly spectacular moment. It was a ray of sunshine; a bit of hope after a week filled with darkness and horrors unimaginable. As Monty Python might say, “…and there was much rejoicing.”

An IV with antibiotics, a prescription to get filled and a copy of the positive blood test in hand, I was sent home to tell my guy.

He turned white, then green, then sat down after I told him. Then he smiled and hugged me. I prayed a nice big thank you prayer to God and for my sister’s advice. I made it through my life’s greatest challenge – I was going to be a mom.

Kara 2 days old (2) (413x500)

Joshua 1:9 (NIV)

9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.”

Deuteronomy 31:6 (NIV)

6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”


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