Why is change so challenging?

Why is change so challenging when the only constant in life is change? Everything changes.

Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NKJV)

To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven

Source: Biblegateway.com

Hah!! Bet many of you didn’t realize that one of The Byrds most popular songs, Turn Turn Turn was TOTALLY inspired by the Bible, but I digress.

Why do we, as humans, have such a hard time dealing with change? Well, at least my family and I do.

The hubby and I have been in the same house for 16 years. We’ve added a few new pieces of furniture, done some remodeling with the floors, but nearly everything else is the same as it was 16 years ago.

Our furniture has never been rearranged. Having two dogs with impaired vision has a something to do with that, but it has more to do with really liking things the way they are.

I do know some people that like to change things all the time. I have family and friends that rearrange the furniture every couple of months. Really?

That’d mean I’d have to vacuum behind things and move heavy objects by myself. Have you ever tried to move an upright baby grand piano? It’s not an undertaking to be taken lightly.

I have one family member that rearranges the kitchen cabinets frequently. If anyone came into my kitchen and rearranged my cabinets, I’d be out for blood.

I get freaky when things end up in the wrong drawer. I’d probably pop a blood vessel if everything was rearranged.

But everything changes, eventually, right?

Our latest change is my hubby’s shift schedule. As of today, he’s officially on a 12-hour shift schedule instead of an 8-hour shift schedule.

Some people think 12-hour shifts are great. In fact, I can’t think of anyone I know on 12-hour shifts that doesn’t like them. I cannot say honestly whether this is going to be a good change, or a bad change.

So why is this change so challenging for us?

My hubby and I have both worked shift work. He still does; I’ve been a SAHM for 11+ years, so my shift never ends. We both understand what it takes to work shift work.

For the last 19 years, we’ve made midnight shift (for my guy) work brilliantly. It worked well with my hubby’s running and biking training schedule, it worked well with family time, it worked well with our time together as a couple, it worked well for the overtime and extra assignments to bring in extra money.

Now, all that is changing, and we’re really not sure how to make this work. Granted, it’s just the first day. I asked him, “Do you want to pack more than one lunch?”  He said, “I don’t know.”  “Do you want me to pack a snack, or protein bar?” “I don’t know.”

“What does your day look like tomorrow?” “I don’t know.” And on the conversation went, with very much the same theme.

There’s SO much we don’t know.

On top of all this, I’ve begun to apply for full-time employment. My girls were not happy with this idea at first. My youngest especially didn’t like the idea. She’s old enough now that there was no stomping of feet, but there were tears. Ugh.

When I explained that we might be able to go on vacation more often and that we’d ALL have cellphones, they found the idea of me working much more appealing.

Oh my word, thinking of all the changes that me working full-time and my hubby working twelves would bring gives me the shivers and makes me feel queasy. Why is change so challenging?

I try to see these changes as big, new adventures. Some of them, like me going back to work, really are big new adventures. Some of them, like the 12-hour shifts, are just a pain in the butt.

But, we’ll see. To everything, there is a season, and if you don’t like the weather, wait 10 minutes. It’ll change.

Ecclesiastes 3 (NKJV)

1 To everything there is a season,
A time for every purpose under heaven:

2 A time to be born,  And a time to die; A time to plant, And a time to pluck what is planted;
3 A time to kill, And a time to heal; A time to break down, And a time to build up;
4 A time to weep, And a time to laugh; A time to mourn, And a time to dance;
5 A time to cast away stones, And a time to gather stones; A time to embrace,  And a time to refrain from embracing;
6 A time to gain, And a time to lose; A time to keep, And a time to throw away;
7 A time to tear, And a time to sew; A time to keep silence, And a time to speak;
8 A time to love, And a time to hate; A time of war, And a time of peace.

Source: Biblegateway.com

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