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Should your female child be able to spend the night at someone's house with male relatives?

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Message from Montie

Shamontiel is the author of two novels: "Change for a Twenty" and "Round Trip." Check her out at shamontiel.com.

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When I was in elementary school, I had a Girl Scout crew that I used to hang out with regularly on Saturdays. And one particular girl was someone I was friends with through high school too. My house used to be the hang-out spot where all my friends would come over for slumber parties, to watch movies, to stop by before we went on shopping sprees with my mother, to sit on the front porch or play with my toys. As my friends and I got older, we also started paying attention to there being more boys than girls on my block, all around our age, and of course the boy crazy ones always wanted to visit. So being that my house was so popular, when this Girl Scout friend of mine told me her grandmother refused to let her spend the night over my house, my feelings were hurt.

 

What was wrong with my house? I had to know. It turns out her grandmother refused to let her spend the night over my house, even though she knew my mother was a Girl Scout leader and she knew me, because she didn't like the idea that my father and teenage brother also lived there. Now imagine someone telling you that they don't want their granddaughter around a father who has raised you your entire life and an older brother who is one of your best male friends regardless of him being seven years older.

 

She'd never met my father or older brother, and my friend had only met my older brother briefly through me, who as all older brothers do, cracked a few jokes and walked away dismissively. What in the world did she think my father or brother were going to do to her?

 

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Assist Her, Daughters of Donia and Lupe Fiasco Foundation create empowerment conference for teenage girls at Paul Robeson High School

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Shamontiel is the author of two novels: "Change for a Twenty" and "Round Trip." Check her out at shamontiel.com.

 

 

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Chicago's south side Paul Robeson High School has developed quite the reputation lately for being labeled the school with one out of seven girls who are pregnant. But it turns out that the 115 Paul Robeson High School students reported as moms or moms-to-be aren't all moms, some are teenage fathers.

 

"Out of the 800 girls, 10 percent of those girls are in our program," Ms. Phillips, Parent Educator at Paul Robeson High School, said. "Eighty girls and we have about twenty-five guys that are in the program so that would bring our number to 115. That is [also] a combination of students that have given birth to their children already and students that are currently pregnant."

 

But the fact remains that there are still 115 teenage parents at the school and mentoring programs like the Lupe Fiasco Foundation, Daughters of Donia and Assist Her, Inc. have planned an event on Saturday, Dec. 5, to help change those statistics. The After I Met a Boy event will be held from 8:30 a.m. to 2:00 p.m., on Sat., Dec. 5, at Paul Robeson High School on 6835 S. Normal Blvd.

 

Mentor group representatives Samantha Coleman, MA, LPC (the Executive Director of Assist Her, Inc.) and Ayesha Jaco (the co-founder of the Lupe Fiasco Foundation and the founder of Daughters of Donia) have created the After I Met a Boy empowerment conference focused on sexual education, prevention and mentoring for the ladies of Paul Robeson High School.

 

"I had heard about the high pregnancy rate at the school and a light bulb went off," said Jaco. "In lieu of the killings that have been going on and stats that came out last year--one in four girls between the ages of 14 and 21 have an STD--I was wondering what I could do to help."

 

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Power 92 radio personality discusses masturbation and Rihanna midday, has radio gone too far?

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Shamontiel is the author of two novels: "Change for a Twenty" and "Round Trip." Check her out at shamontiel.com.

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Getty Images photo by Frank Micelotta / February 7, 2009 - Singer Rihanna attends the 2009 Grammy Salute To Industry Icons honoring recording executive Clive Davis at the Beverly Hilton Hotel on Saturday in Beverly Hills, California.

Around 4 p.m. today, I was switching between CDs and Power 92 happened to be the last station I was listening to in between. The radio personality was discussing an interview question with pop star Rihanna about who she was "getting it in" with since Chris Brown.

 

Rihanna made a comment about not being interested in love over her career and instead choosing to pleasure herself. Now if that response wasn't wild enough, the Power 92 radio personality asked women to call in to find out if they pleasure themselves too. I just shook my head, changed the station and popped a new CD in. This is why I listen to the radio about 10 percent of the time I'm in a car or walking down the street with my MP3 player. Some of the conversations are ridiculous to me, and I definitely didn't want to hear a bunch of women calling in talking about rabbits and their fingers. When did daytime radio personalities get so risqué?

 

Call me prudish, but I felt like Rihanna could've kept that comment to herself and so could the radio personality. The problem is the media is forever digging for information we really have no business knowing. Whoever Rihanna chooses to date is really between herself and her new "beau" when/if she has one. But I think people automatically assume that everybody you're dating is someone you're banging. Not true.

 

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