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Honesty: Saying what needs to be said....

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Zee Karim

I'm 27 with an open-mind for opinions and strangers. I love everything about words, you can find me curled up with a good book any day and believe it or not I can read and listen at the same time..its called TALENT!

A honest approach to a relational problem:

Him: I am not sexually attracted to you anymore, your weight is the issue.

Her: Gasp! (The sound of her self-esteem taking an elevator to the bottom floor)

In today's society it isn't as easy to be as honest as we would like. Our honest approach can lead in many directions including violence. But as we teach our children that honesty is the best policy we are being dishonest to them. Most children are very honest. Many of us have encountered that child that will snarl at something ugly or even say someone is fat or unhygienic and we will punish that child for doing so; and that is where it begins. We gain a disposition of keeping what we truly feel to ourselves and often we endure the thing we began to despise or we simply bow out without explanation. So honesty was once the best policy now honesty is the last policy, used during times of complete frustration or when we are full from skating around it and it has to go somewhere.

Particularly in intimate relationships honesty has become strained and replaced with half-truths, whereas if you ask about something in particular you get the answer but if not it gets left out. Ever notice when someone asks you a question and it ends in "Be Honest", that adage is a way of knowing that oft times we give what is refered to as the "Best" answer; the one that allows the conversation or situation to remain at ease.

I wonder, if we took the time to say all those things that were lurking deep in us, what will be the result?

 Would we still have harmonious relationships? 

Would our honesty be respected or dismissed as disrespectful? 

Honestly, it probably would result in tiny personal wars or it may lead to an epidemic of honest responses. We will never know until we decide to take that extra bit of time to conjure the courage to tell the truth.

 

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crownroyal said:

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Good question, I think our personal insecurities are the hardest thing we deal with as humans, it would be good to try out though.

Zee Karim said:

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I believe we also think that other people may not benefit from the truth.

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