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Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat--I'm Up for That!


I've got it!  I called the Borders and they had just one book left so I asked them to hold it for me and I got right over there.  Dr. Michelle May's book: Eat What You Love, Love What You Eat--How to Break Your Eat-Repent-Repeat Cycle.  You won't find many "diet" books with a luscious piece of chocolate pictured on the cover.  I like it already.

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I put the word "diet" in quotations because as Dr. May tells us in the introduction: "...this book is really different.  In fact it may seem a bit too different. ... No dieting? How's that going to help?


Well, I think we may just be witnessing a true diet revolution between the pages of this book.  

Dr. May assures us there's a better way. There must be a better way.  If you struggle with your weight, you know that you're not alone. The statistics are frightening. Despite the popular South Beach Diet, the Atkins, a shift in focus toward a food's glycemic index, fat free foods and an exercise craze, we've seen obesity rates sky-rocket in just a few short years.  Data from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) show that in 2008, only one state, Colorado, had an obesity rate of less than 20%.  So in Colorado ONLY one in 5 people is obese while in other states, almost one in 3 people is truly obese.  Compare the numbers between 1990 and 2008 at this CDC webpage.  All this has happened despite the many promises of the diet-of-the-month proponents.

I cannot say whether things will get better if we change; what I can say is they must change if they are to get better. -Georg C. Lichtenberg.


I don't know who Georg is or why he spells his name wrong but I think he's right on about change. In Illinois, our obesity rate is 26.4% so just over one in four people in our state are obese (a BMI greater than 30).  If we look at how many are either overweight or obese the numbers are even more worrisome. For those with a BMI greater than 25 (the definition of overweight), the national rate was 66.4% in 2003-04. Somethings gotta give!


The CDC even admits that:  "It's not about a diet, it's a lifestyle!"  Yet--we jump right into a new diet like a shiny new pair of shoes only to get another blister on our diet travel-weary feet.  In what Dr. May calls the eat-repent-repeat cycle, perhaps we should listen to the Gloria Steinem adage that "If the shoe doesn't fit, must we change the foot?" Ah yes, Confuscious say "change must start from within" (or if he didn't, he certainly should have). 


It seems that many of us have developed a distorted purpose for food in our lives. We've come to believe that food will cure whatever ails us, the least of which is hunger. We may have even forgotten what it feels like to be hungry! Some of the reasons we eat that Dr. May describes in her book may sound familiar to you.  Here's a sample of them:


I'm bored.

I'm stressed.

I'm nervous.

I'm sad.

It's lunch time.


A big factor that plays into my own life is food as a social activity.  Yes--I had 21 people around my Thanksgiving table and once the plates were fully loaded, the conversation came to a halt.  It started up again eventually with mouths full, raving about the roast that my dad grilled, the mashed potatoes and sweet potatoes.  My turkey, despite my dutiful 3-day brine, went without mention.  


Since my own favorite part of the meal is dessert and there were several different options, among which I refused to choose, I took (more than) just a little of each. 

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I was so busy eating and talking and enjoying everything that I lost track of how my stomach was feeling and I got over-stuffed.  I HATE that feeling and it happened without my realizing it.  Then I had to lay down on the couch to digest, leaving the rest of the clean up to greet me in the morning. Help Dr. May!  What should I do differently next time??!


The social aspect of eating can really mess with any "diet"So how can we enjoy the experience of truly being with friends and family at this wonderful holiday season without the day of judgement and self-flagellation that follows: the dreaded--were you "good" or "bad"? 


So--lets avoid weight gain over the holidays and maybe even lose weight!  Dr. May makes me believe it's possible.  Let's read the book together, folks.  As Dr. May said in her comment on my last post, if you can't get to the bookstore or you're waiting for the online store to deliver, go here to download a chapter for free and let's talk!








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Michelle May MD said:


Thanks for sharing your Thanksgiving dessert experience, Carrie. It's so easy to get distracted when we're eating something we love. It's as though we silently shift from enjoyment to the task of finishing it off without realizing we are too full until it's too late.

As for what to do, you took one important step by noticing how bad you felt, stating that you don't like that feeling, and reflecting on why it happened.

Eating the right amount of food isn't about being good, it is about feeling good. Since you are aware that it didn't feel good you can learn from the experience.

I wrote an article about what to do when you overeat last Thanksgiving: - I hope it helps!

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