Tweens can be forgetful, sweet, fiercely independent, stubborn, hilarious and loving. My tween put those all together into one moment that both cracked me up and put me in my place.
Over brunch at home on Mother’s Day, my tween presented me with a gift. I opened the gift bag and took out a gift of lotion and bath goodies. My tween said that there was also a card in the bag. I looked.
Well, no card, at least, but a gift a receipt for the lotion.
I told me tween that and she said, “Oh yeah, that’s it.”
I took the gift receipt out. And you’ve seen the picture above. That was my Mother’s Day “card.” A note at the top of THE GIFT RECEIPT, written in pencil, no less, was my card.
For those that remember the post I did the day before Mother’s Day saying that it is important to let kids make a fuss over parents on holidays and birthdays because it teaches them to think of others and learn to express their feelings about others, don’t think the irony and lack of fussing on my tween’s part is lost on me. What I hope or think my tween should do is not exactly what happens.
That said, it’s a very sweet note. I love the sentiment. That’s what really matters on such holidays.
Who needs Hallmark, right?
I’d totally buy that if not for a few things.
1. She said she was being environmental and saving paper. She lied. She’s never been a big tree hugger. (And yes, we do recycle, and we try to not be wasteful, but these efforts on the part of our family have never been ones that have made my tween overly enthusiastic.)
2. We were at the table surrounded by family when she presented my gift and “card.” Immediately, both my husband and my mother said that they asked her repeatedly if she had a gift and card for me before Mother’s Day and offered to help her. She told them that she was going to make me one.
3. Art supplies abound in our home. She could have easily made one.
She was in full-on tween mode, rejecting help, asserting that she had things under control when she did not, or was too distracted to think about it. She was also being kind and sweet. I’ll hang on to this gift receipt for a very long time. Maybe this is her way of ensuring that I keep the gift?
Side note: My tween has apparently seen the error of her ways or discovered the value of a card as evidence by my husband’s birthday celebration, at which she presented him with one store-bought card, a couple homemade cards and many festive, artistic signs she created.
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