Beloved, if God so loved us,
we also must love one another.
No one has ever seen God.
Yet, if we love one another, God remains in us,
and his love is brought to perfection in us. – 1 John 4:11-16 (from today’s first reading)
It’s tricky business this “love one another” stuff. It’s hard to love someone who is, well, unlovable.
There’s the young girl I work with who is so self-absorbed she turns every conversation back to herself. The bigger issue with her is she lies. About everything.
One day we were in the employee lounge and she had just told me she doesn’t live that far from me. In the next sentence she’s telling another co-worker that she lives near them which is in the opposite direction of me.
On another occasion, she told me she had gotten married to her long-time boyfriend. The next time I saw her, she told me they were probably going to divorce and she was already “texting” another guy. After that she told me she was planning her wedding. I was so confused I didn’t know what to say to her.
Then there was a time when we were alone. She whispered with tears in her eyes that she and her “boyfriend” had gotten pregnant and she had gotten an abortion because it was for the “best.”
I tried to comfort her and I did pray for her, but later on, I wondered if it was even true.
Why does she lie so much? I don’t know. Maybe she’s trying to get attention, maybe it’s something she’s always done and she just doesn’t know how to stop. I feel sorry for her, but yet, I don’t want to be around her to hear the latest tall tale.
I guess I might be wired differently from those who say they can hate the sin, but love the sinner. I find it difficult to separate the two when the sinner is blatant and ongoing with their sin.
So I pray for this young woman when I can. Maybe no one else does. Our Lord knows my own shortcomings and perhaps through my prayers for her, the Lord will open my own heart to make room for a little love for her.