Accentuating the Positive: Lessons in Attitude Improvement

This comes as no surprise to those of us who live in the arctic tundra, but February is a hard month. It’s dark. Cold. Dreary. Devoid of holidays. Blah. (And no, Valentines Day & President’s Day don’t count as holidays- Mardi Gras does, but it’s not like I can go to Rio or New Orleans at this point of my life, so it might as well not exist outside of my donning of beads and listening to Professor Longhair.). Oops…I’m being a Cloud (read on…).

This year, I am on a mission to be positive throughout this dour month. (Goddamn it!)

I try not to bitch and complain for the most part (we all have our weak moments), but I am taking this life decision one step further:

I am not going to let other people bitch and moan about things either (unless it is really needed).

The day we planned our gals getaway together, I had a nice chat with two of the girls coming on the trip. One of them has realized she has been very hard on herself and that it needs to stop. Her mantra was essentially: “I’m old. I’m fat. I’m wrinkled. Look at these bags under my eyes.”

This was the message (if you are a fan of several new age approaches) that she was constantly sending out into the universe about herself, and she realized that this negative cycle needed to stop.

What a great and simple gift to give yourself this (non-holiday) Valentine’s Day-love thyself.

Stop berating yourself about things not in your control. If it is in your control, then start telling yourself constructive ways, in large leaps or baby steps, to overcome your obstacles. (It could be simply to put that Packzi down. Moisturize more. Look into some courses at the community college. Get that resume started. What steps are needed to start your new and better life?)

This resonated deep within me. Long ago, I made some commandments upon myself:

I shall not subject myself (and my family) to negative people. Life is too short for all the drama. I try to steer away from negative people and energy suckers. (You know, those people who exhaust you after spending time with them because they sucked all of your life force from you).

I shall not gossip. When I hear it, it stops with me. I will not spread it myself.

I shall look at the world as half-full of potential rather than as half-empty.

And now my new commandment: I shall not allow people to talk negatively about themselves.

Ideally, I would like to turn their complaint into a positive, but I am no ray of sunshine coming out of their butt either. Quite honestly, I am not sure how to go about doing this.

I joked this weekend that we should simply say, “Don’t be a cloud in these sunny skies.” By the end of the night, we just called each other a “Cloud” when someone committed an ‘infraction’.

What message do you throw out to the universe continually?

Is it negative? If so how can we turn that into a positive?

No more Clouds! February has enough of them already.

Ay, Mama!

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