Tag: gender

Texas passing a 'bathroom bill' that targets trans students is only the beginning #notinanystate

Texas passing a 'bathroom bill' that targets trans students is only the beginning #notinanystate
Texas rushed to pass a bill on Sunday evening that is nothing short of outright discrimination against trans children. After a heated and emotional debate, they passed the bill by a vote of 94-50. The amendment added to this bill that specifically targets trans students is being called a “common sense” solution. A solution that... Read more »

My trans son is a real boy

My trans son is a real boy
The Blue Fairy waved her magic wand today and turned my child into a real live boy. At least, that’s a little bit how it felt, opening our passports. The federal government legally recognized my son as a boy. We danced for ten minutes in the middle of the kitchen. He checked again and again,... Read more »

How I told my friends I was trans: a graphic novel by Jake Valentine

I am born and the doctor says, "It's a girl!"
Today is my trans son’s second anniversary. Two years since his rather incredible and surprising transition story, where he publicly and socially transitioned to he/him pronouns and a name that suited his gender identity. For his anniversary gift this year, I’ve decided to let him tell his own story. In graphic novel. Okay, really more of... Read more »
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6 steps to help your trans child during a Trump Administration

6 steps to help your trans child during a Trump Administration
It’s been a rough week for all of us and many of us are wondering, what now? What next? What do I need to do? Following are six steps that you can take, today, to help your trans child during a Trump Administration. Don’t Panic Panicking helps no one, and least of all your child. As emergency... Read more »

Birds, Bees, and Unicorns: An Interview with Cory Silverberg

Birds, Bees, and Unicorns: An Interview with Cory Silverberg
For any parents of trans youth who are interested in hearing Cory answer questions specific to our children, please send me an email and I will share dates and times. Anyone attending may maintain their anonymity and submit questions to Cory in advance of the call. About a year ago, I wrote an essay for Cosmo... Read more »

Our new wedding canvas is a tribute to my trans son

Our new wedding canvas is a tribute to my trans son
About a year and a half ago, I stood in front of several hundred people and shared the story of my son. My trans son. That story began with meeting my husband, our unexpected pregnancy, and our marriage. On our wedding day, my son was a month shy of two years old. He had little... Read more »
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An open letter to Pope Francis on religion, gender, choice and consequence

An open letter to Pope Francis on religion, gender, choice and consequence
Dear Pope Francis, I’m writing on behalf of my son, and perhaps trans and gender non-conforming children everywhere, in expressing my gratitude for your recent remarks about how we shouldn’t force children into gender roles. I know that’s not what you really said, but I’m choosing to give you the benefit of the doubt. Let... Read more »

Pamela Valentine reading "Welcome To My Holland"

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This year, I had the incredible honor of being a part of Listen to Your Mother St. Louis. Last year, in Chicago, I came out as the parent of a trans child. It transformed my life in so many ways. It gave me a voice, it gave me a platform to share my story, but... Read more »

Thanks for a wonderful first year!

Thanks for a wonderful first year!
It’s been a whole year! Can you believe it? It feels like just yesterday that I introduced myself to the world as Affirmed Mom. I had very little support at that time in my life and less knowledge. I made mistakes, and I learned from them over the next couple months. I learned how to... Read more »
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My son's wedding dress

My son's wedding dress
I saw the dress my son wore on my wedding day, on the prettiest little girl with long curly brown hair, not much younger than he is now. That could have been him. I don’t think about it, not when I’m awake. Not when I’m in control and things are good and we’re happy and... Read more »