What this mom really wants for Father’s Day

If you’re like me, you are inundated with activities, life events, and obligations in the month of June. The school year is ending, we have graduations, parties, gifts, nostalgia from the change of seasons, etc. Then, in the middle of it all, there is Father’s Day.

Instead of Father’s Day being another obligatory day made up of ties and golf shirts, can it be a little more genuine?

Here is what this mom really wants for Father’s Day; as this is what I would like for my husband:

I want the kids to remember to call him. All on their own, without reminders. Really, what’s the point if I have to nudge them or keep after them to do it? He’s their dad, and they are old enough to put a reminder in their phones to call/text/message/smoke signal/whatever. If they aren’t motivated to remember and do it in their own, it’s meaningless.

I want dad to feel free of any pressure to do anything Father’s Day cliche tie/golf shirt/barbecue related, unless of course that’s what he wants. I am a firm believer that these commemorative days should truly be about doing whatever the guest of honor wants to do. Want to do something traditional? Fine. Want to lounge around binge watching Netflix? Or any combination in between? That’s fine too. It should be about what that person wants to do, not some societal expectation.

I want the time with the kids to be quality, real, and un-rushed. Spend time with dad because you want to, not out of any sense of obligation. If it’s a chore, again, what is the point?

The bottom line is, there’s too many of these holidays, life events, and special occasions for there to be any sense of drudgery or work attached to them. I truly believe in doing whatever it is you want, within reason, particularly if you are the guest of honor for any particular day. It should be about what that person wants. Life is too short, after all.

Happy Father’s Day to all!

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