It’s amazing how our aspirations and goals go through SO many shifts and changes over the years. For me, whether it’s been wanting to be a famous rock star, or rich, or a super successful entrepreneur, or the best spouse and parent I could be, there’s always been some goal to chase after that I would achieve… someday.
But here’s the thing they don’t tell you when you’re growing up, that’s written in the fine print of all of this lofty goal setting and chasing: It’s very difficult to do more than one lofty thing at a time. So while you’re out there busting your butt striving and achieving, there’s something else important to you that you’re neglecting simultaneously. It’s all about choices. If you chase the money, then maybe you’re not satisfied in your work. If you try to prioritize your kids, especially when they’re young, then maybe your career takes a hit, perhaps along with your financial goals. Same thing with starting and running a business – if go after what you love, maybe you’re putting a lot else a distant second.
So after having done some combination of all of these things, having chased many goals, I now know what I want to be when I grow up.
I want to be someone who figures out how to find the balance. I hope I learn how to achieve the right level of commitment in my work relative to my personal/family lives. Like most people, for me, one always seem to overshadow the other, but it shouldn’t have to be that way. I don’t want it to be that way throughout my entire life, and changing that for the better has become my main goal moving forward. I’ve learned that life is too short to take so seriously that we over commit ourselves to career and work. Similarly, we have to find meaning outside of raising a family, otherwise we aren’t well rounded or fulfilled enough to give our best selves to our family.
So yes, when I grow up, I want to be someone who finally figures out how to achieve that elusive balance. I don’t know many who have, but the few I do know who have found that balance are among the most satisfied people I know. So that’s now my life’s goal as well.
I don’t know that I’ll ever get there, but I know I’ll keep on trying.
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