I like the idea of getting married someday, but these elaborate, cliche ceremonies (that I guarantee the guests will not remember or care about) seem to be so pointless, especially considering that 90% of these couples will be headed for divorce. If you make $60,000, you shouldn’t be spending $90,000 on your “big day.” In this big, flashy focus on making your wedding into the biggest, best day of your entire lives, you are forgetting one very key thing: this day is supposed to be the entry into your entire lives, not the highlight.
With the economy and couples rebelling against the excess, I’ve known two couples who have recently been secretly married at town hall. I am all for it. There’s something so romantic about that. The idea that a wedding can be personal and intimate, that the act focuses on the two of you, that stripped down from its attention to chachkis that your guests will throw out, cake they won’t remember and decorations they won’t notice, the ceremony can be a quiet pact made between two people who truly love eachother seems very appealing to me.
Yet, I am the girl who wants everything…surprising, I know! There’s a part of me that has always wanted to elope in Vegas at a cheesy drive through chapel, but I think that’s the same part of me that doesn’t want that wedding to count…as if it would be the same as when my sister officiated the wedding between Timmy and me at the top of the slide in our backyard. If I were to get married at town hall and not have my friends and family there, I’m pretty sure that somewhere, sometime down the road, I’d be really disappointed. I know that my parents, sisters and handful of closest friends would definitely be disappointed. Lucky for me, I won’t be having to make that call anytime soon.
Would you ever get married at town hall?