That first meal you make for someone you’re dating is so important. It will set their expectations and, really, whether they will even accept another dinner invation from you. From the start, you are up against a few hurdles:
- His mom. Regardless of whether she was a James Beard Award winner or just picked up gas station hot dogs, anything she made will be deemed “most amazing food in the world” by your guy. You will never beat her creme brulee or her ketchup on spaghetti noodles.
- Men are some of the pickiest eaters! My dad, for example, won’t eat cold sandwiches (and this is a step up from refusing to eat any type of cold meal when he first married my mom) or any green vegetables. Moreover, dudes will not bend from this position! When my dad went backpacking through Europe in his youth, he lived on mere dollars each day. In Paris, he ordered pommes frites, not knowing that they would be served with mayonaise. Guess who decided to go hungry that day?
Despite the fact that I not only love to cook, but am also pretty good at it, some guys are still nervous about eating that first meal. They know that if it goes badly and they like the girl, it means a lot of takeout Chinese in their future.
Looking back, I think I have been tricked into cooking a first meal under guided supervision from a guy. I’d been asking him over for weeks, but he would always wiggle out of it and take me out to eat instead. One night, he texted me to ask me over to cook breakfast with him the next morning. When I got there, he had already bought all the ingredients for something very simple. Cooking together quickly turned into me making him scrambled eggs with all the ingredients that he had at pre-selected and he getting to make sure I didn’t set the house on fire.
The gig is up!! I figured you out. I’m going to cook my mom’s fajita recipe. You are going to cry with delicious-ness.
What is your signature first meal?