While I am at my office I don't typically take much of a break. My little makeshift kitchen is in said office so when I eat, I usually just sit at my computer. As a natural habit, I look at Facebook to get away from business for 20 minutes. Now, I'd prefer business emails to Facebook - it's become a dark and dangerously ugly place lately. It's time for a break.
I know I am not saying anything you don't already know - that our feeds are clogged with daily posts about what Donald Trump has done to piss us off. And full of replies from people who aren't pissed off by him. It's a lose, lose scenario we are all fighting.
When I originally named my blog "When you put it that way" it was intended to try to perhaps put a different spin on certain situations; to quite possibly change an opinion or two, once a different side was shown. The election and the ensuing daily shocks that have followed have proven that my attempts to change an opinion are futile.
Now, one might say well Teppi, your opinion is wrong, it's unfounded, without merit. That is your right. But where we have failed as a people is to see that every single person God created is different and with that, our opinions are going to differ. How I ask can these differences be handled with grace and civility?
Lately I don't believe they can. Yes, we had peaceful Women's Marches but of course there were those that had their negative comments about it. Even when we try to peacefully express our opinions there are those that have to stir up trouble. Like the bully on the playground, some people are just not happy unless there is tumult and chaos.
So, this brings me back to Facebook. When I first opened my account my kids were horrified! This was a place for college kids to commiserate, certainly not you old folks out there! Yet, we did start spreading the word and before you knew it, billions of people worldwide became connected. We found old friends, we made some new ones.
We found a way to keep in touch with those old friends and even some old romances were rekindled. It was a great pastime for awhile but like anything, it's not so much anymore.
It's a force of habit that I even go on it - today was no exception. Yet, when I began my scroll I found myself getting angrier and angrier. Everything I read upset me. I clicked on a couple of articles that upset me even more. Yes, my fault but they were there - I felt compelled. My issue. It was when I was reading comments about an article that I snapped. I wondered why? Why am I wasting my valuable time on this shit? Why am I putting myself in the situation to be angered, to feel sick to my stomach? On a place that used to be so friendly?
So, I made a statement that I was done. It was met with agreeable comments, cute pictures of puppies and flowers; funny little stories and things that made me smile. In each of those moments I remembered why I ever got onto Facebook in the first place.
I'm not a cold hearted person that doesn't care about the State of the Union - I do greatly and it keeps me up at night. Yet, perhaps as a two time cancer survivor I choose to live my life without aggravation and stress. Those things can actually cause cancer. And ulcers. And migraines. And manifest itself in many other physically harmful ways. So why not just stop it?!?
I see there is now a way to block political posts. It's not refined completely and apparently there may be things I'd want to still see and wouldn't. So, my thought is that perhaps people just stop posting about politics and religion - stop using Facebook to incite rage and anger. Go on vacation lately? Show me those pix. Have a new baby or grandchild? PLEASE, post those pictures. New puppy or cat? Great. Just get married or have a kid that did? Please post away your happy times!!
Even when you lose a loved one, please post for support. Yes, it's sad but you'll want people to know. People will reach out to you; it helps. Lose a pet? Post that too. Loss is as real as all the fun and fluff but none of these things create anger.
Our current President has divided the country enough. Yes, I'm stating yet another fact that can create an argument but again, it's just my opinion and you have every right to disagree. Just please keep it off Facebook. Let's all try to get back to our regularly scheduled lives and smile a little from time to time. If you want to be active in making the world a better place, do it just like people did before Facebook.
Things are scary I know. But life is too short.
Enjoy every moment you can. You won't regret it.
"She said she usually cried at least once a day. Not because she was sad, but because life was so beautiful and life was so short". Brian Andreus