Last night I spent an evening with some wonderful people who I am very fortunate to have met this year. It got me thinking today just how very fortunate I am. Fortunate, a derivative of fortune can be associated with riches. And if riches are associated with blessings, than I am very rich indeed.
Maybe not in the green stuff, cash or mountains of material things but in and with things that money just can't buy.
1) I have been married nearly twenty five years. I have a husband that although I want to kick his lazy ass sometimes, truly, truly loves me. He holds my hand everywhere we go, tells me he loves me no less than ten times a day and can't go to sleep at night unless we are cuddled together. He is a wonderful father. He is far from perfect but so am I (not really). The older we get, the more we realize how love grows as we age together. We appreciate each other more with each passing year. There is no price tag for that.
2) I have two amazing daughters. My girls are not only beautiful on the outside but on the inside too. Last night after the event I was tipsy so I slept at my older daughter's apartment as it's close to where I was. She loves having me there. She loves to cuddle and talk and tell me everything (well, probably not everything) and always tells me I am her BFF. We talk many times every day. When I arrived home today, my younger daughter was disappointed I had not gotten home earlier this morning so we could hang out. On her way out the door she told me I was the best mother a girl could ask for. I almost cried. Priceless.
3) I am 54 and still have at least one parent. Oh, how I wish I had both as I miss my mom everyday so very much; but I still have my Dad. Or should I say my Daddy. We talk everyday. He still calls me his baby. He's never had a mean bone in his body. HE is priceless.
4) I have a roof over my head. We have lived in our tiny house for nearly 22 years. As our girls got older we thought of a bigger house but saved to put them through college instead. Plus, how much room do you really need? Is a huge spread so necessary? Don't get me wrong, I've had visions of at least a bigger closet but the things we have been able to do without a huge mortgage have no price tag. Some of the girls high school friends lived in mansions. We all agreed that a house filled with love was most important. And some of those big houses were filled with emptiness, and not just the rooms.
5) I have a job. I am self-employed which has been a true blessing. I have been allowed the luxury of attending all my girls functions when they were younger, taking time off when I need and making a decent living. I have to work hard and I don't mind a bit. I get no paycheck when I don't work, no sick pay, no vacation pay - but it's worth all of that to be my own boss. And once again, the ability to spend my time with my girls? PRICELESS.
6) I have my health. This is a big one for me. In 2003 I was diagnosed with stage 2 breast cancer. I went through a year of chemotherapy, radiation and surgery. I did not lose my breasts, I kicked cancer's ass and I have been cancer free for 8 1/2 years. There is not a day that goes by that I am not reminded that it could come back anytime. I have lost many loved ones to it and it sucks. But I am here. I see my girls grow and mature. I hope to dance at their weddings someday. I hope to see my grandchildren. I hope to be married 50 years. I hope.
I have many other things that make me rich. Healthy siblings who are my good friends as well as just blood relations, Life long friends, new friends, relatives that I like (you know, there are plenty that people don't) faith and a great baseball swing. Hey, that's important to me.
So, anyone who read the title of this blog and thought right away that I was a pretentious snob, bragging about riches, kiss my butt. Because I bet you assumed I was talking about money. And let's face it, all the money in the world can't buy love, health and happiness.