The Fear of Commitment. P.S. It's okay to say "I Do"

After perusing on Facebook, I came across a status of someone that was attending a wedding and one of the things that stood out to me was, "I especially love the exchanging of vows. It's a mystery how two become one..." I immediately thought of Genesis wherein God stated, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him."

I found an article on about the Top Ten Reasons why men are afraid to commit. One reason is the fear of the lost of freedom. It is interesting to read these excuses (not reasons). The U.S. Census reports that over the past four decades, the rate of marriage has definitely been on the decrease. According to the National Marriage Project, a study undertaken at Rutgers University, men today are overwhelmingly apprehensive about getting married. Commitment and marriage are not anything to be afraid of. I’m not saying it’s just men either, there are many women who fear commitment too (past hurt, trust, etc.).

According to, “You have to accept that no single person will ever fulfill all of your needs. Be realistic in your expectations of other persons because they are, after all, human beings just like you. Do not expect them to make you happy, because you don't make them happy all of the time right? Nobody is perfect.”

I admit, I am a sucker for love and consider myself a true advocate of love and marriage (actually a hopeless romantic), that is one of the reasons why I got involved in the wedding industry. I love weddings and being able to witness two individuals say "I do" is one of the most beautiful things to see.

As the wedding season is nearing its end, the engagement season will start and many couples are contemplating marriage or already engaged, and some may have lingering questions and/or doubts. I admit marriage is not easy, this is a commitment made before God to spend the rest of your life with one person.  Many fear marriage because of the word “commitment.”

Do you find yourself having doubts?  If you are, communicate about this, express your concerns and your fears, that is important.  Once the commitment is made, the purpose is not to prepare for that one day (the wedding) but prepare to spend a lifetime together, until death do you two part.

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