Today is our 14th wedding anniversary. I remember the cold autumn day after Halloween in snippets. I remember the morning getting ready with the lovely ladies in my life, almost tripping on my dress walking down the aisle, dancing with our friends and a post wedding bar encounter with the real life Fabio.
Since that party, we have spent 5,110 days together. Some have been wonderful and many have been challenging. Here are 14 things I've learned about marriage.
- Communicate. Nobody is a mind reader; we need to know what the other is thinking.
Intimacy. It is easy to become roommates if you don't touch each other daily.
- Listen. Hear what the other is saying.
- Date Nights. It is important connect one on one regularly.
- Support. We need to build each other up, not tear them down.
- Laugh. My husband and I can always soften a tense situation by laughing. It is healing.
- Laundry. It is a plus for your partner to always have clean underwear and socks.
- Silence. It's ok to be together without talking.
- Put away your phone. It is hard to communicate when one of you is staring at your phone. See #1.
- Patience. Your partner will do annoying things. You need to find a way to accept it and not let it bother you.
- Sacrifice. Let them get their way once in awhile.
- Talk about more than the kids. Kids grow up and you want to have more in common than just them.
- Honesty. If there is no trust, it can't be a successful marriage.
- Love. Tell and show each other as much as possible that you love them.
What have you learned about marriage since your wedding day?
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