I cautiously posted last week about the argument my man and I had about our schedules and child care. Surprisingly, I'm glad I did since some unique conversations have come out of it.
My mom mentioned that when she was my age none of her many mom pals ever talked about their problems with kids or marriage. She assumed all her friends had a flawless husband and home life. Now 40 years later, these ladies are revealing stories of bedwetting, infidelity and infertility.
An old friend and I chatted about how the photos and stories most share online are generally at ones best. It would be unusual to highlight sad times, as the good times are the moments you want to document and remember.
I began to wonder if a lot of our online personas lead double lives. We perfect our titles and display frame worthy photos, appearing to live a life we see portrayed in the media and movies. When the computer is off; life is not all sunshine, rainbows and happy family portraits.
I discovered that this happens in real life too. A family in my neighborhood, that I don't know that well, but have admired as I briefly chatted with them at the restaurant down the street or while playing on their lawn; I learned are getting divorced.
It really rattled me. Not just because I feel terrible for the well behaved kids and seemingly nice adults, but I realized I've been judging this family. I assumed when I saw their house from my window that life was picture perfect inside.
I'm glad they were honest, and I think we should be truthful as well. The times when I have been the rawest; are the instances I've received the most, both online and in real life.
It is hard to hold in problems, trust me it feels like a weight has lifted when the truth is spoken.
Anyone up for being real with me?