At the school Kindergarten meeting, the principal brought up an interesting point. He advised the parents not to call their kids smart. He claimed students won't work as hard if they are always told they are smart. Reminding impressional young minds that they are intelligent can either a) boost confidence or b) create an overconfident, lazy child that doesn't try as hard.
My daughter's grandparents, among others, often tell her how pretty she is. I wonder if repeating to a child their entire life that they are beautiful can either a) boost confidence or b) create the message that looks are more important than brains.
I don't know the right answer on this one. I do believe it is necessary to occassionally compliment children. We hope our offspring grow up thinking they are smart, pretty, funny, creative and honest. I would hate to hold back praising my little ones for them to feel insecure later.
What would you do?