Letting Go Of Philip Seymour Hoffman

Alas.

From the first post I saw on Facebook, I knew this would be a day of tributes and Tweets. People reminiscing about their favorite movies and lamenting the loss of an amazing actor. There'd be speculation concerning the details of death and the circumstances surrounding his mental state, but I wondered how many people would talk about addiction.

There were people who reminded me that Hoffman was sober for over 20 years:

She's right. There is something unsettling about hearing someone with "long-term" sobriety has succumbed to the disease again, but also an incredibly harsh reminder that no one ever is cured. That addiction is a cancer that is put in remission daily, but always and forever has a potential to make an appearance without maintenance on the actions, attitudes and avenues that got one sober and/or clean in the first place. Other tweets of the same ilk also brought up the fact that he had three small children, the eldest only 10 years old. Another reminder that addiction robs people of the ability to think of anyone else, even the people they love the most. It's not a choice -- anyone would choose differently if they could.

To wit:

 

Addiction doesn't play favorites. It's not the disease of poor people or homeless people or a particular ethnicity. It doesn't care for a particular gender or socioeconomic class or upbringing. There are statistics that show there are reasons that it might come up more in certain areas, but there is no one that is immune. Education and money won't help you. In fact, you often can be too smart for your own good when it comes to recovering. The mind is the thing that is your own worst enemy, and the spinning wheel of shitmaking will lead you back to a drink or a drug faster than anything else.

 

But there were eloquent eulogies as well. I leave you with a most poetic offering on the situation from Sondra Morin, one that is graceful and gentle:

A statement from Philip's family:

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