- Retirement, not what it's cracked up to be or is it a chance for a new beginning?
I met a friend for coffee this week, she has just retired. We were discussing what to do now that we no longer work outside our home.
She is new to retirement and I am not.
We are both nurses.
I never really wanted to retire from working but what I did welcome was leaving a job that I no longer liked. Actually, I was finding myself anxious to stay home without a daily schedule.
Working at home was an interesting idea, but what could I do?
One night with some help from a friend of my daughter's, I was able to establish a parenting blog on Wordpress.
And just like that, I was working from home. It is now 6 1/2 years later.
Blogging was definitely a learning experience. But fortunately for me, computers were not that challenging thanks to electronic medical records and my computer skills training at a Chicago teaching hospital. My interns kept me updated and connected me to Facebook and Twitter.
Working with young interns was inspiring. Most were anxious to learn and were thrilled when they could also teach me something new as well. It was always a win-win when I could see them use a skill that I had taught them and they could "friend" me on Facebook.
Shortly before my "Parenting in the Loop" blog made its debut I became a grandmother.
It was a driving force in my blog creation. I was already reading many blogs of all kinds...many written by "mommy bloggers". Why couldn't a grandmother write a parenting blog or two or three?
I always made it a habit to make thoughtful comments on the blogs that I was reading as that is what provokes a discussion but one time I got embroiled in one blogger's battle with her child's deadbeat dad's family.
The discussion on one post of hers was so bitter that I complained, saying this could be harmful to her child once he was old enough to be on the internet and read what was being said about him and his mother. What I did not realize is that some bloggers live for these controversial discussions even at the expense of their children.
For my efforts, I was banned from her personal site and her Facebook page. But more importantly the bitter responses were taken down by the popular site where her posts appeared on a regular basis.
Back to retirement...I am not sure I will ever retire. There are just too many things that I find interesting. Children and parenting, grand parenting and now how we adjust to being "retired" are just some of my favorite topics to read about and discuss on social media and my blogs.
Baby boomers, we don't have to "retire" from what we love...we just have to continue to share ourselves in different ways.
Mine happens to be blogging where I have found a more global audience. I realize that at my age we are able to participate in a much larger world than we ever thought possible.
We can channel our restless energy into something positive. The challenge is finding our passion all over again and taking chances.
My friend will find her meaning in retirement.
She realizes she has only left a specific job that defined her workweek. She is in an adjustment period trying to figure out what challenge she is up to taking on now that her time is more flexible.
My thoughts on this stage of life...
Be willing to change so that you can always keep moving on your journey, there will always be ups and downs...but what a ride it will be!
"Life is full of surprises and and serendipity. Being open to unexpected turns in the road is an important part of success. If you try to plan every step, you may miss those wonderful twists and turns. Just find your next adventure-do it well, enjoy it-and then, not now, think about what comes next."