Posts in category "Dating"

An Open Letter to Guys Who Stare

An Open Letter to Guys Who Stare
Dear Guys (Who Like Admiring A Pretty Lady), I’ll admit I don’t address you directly very often. Instead, I keep my posts broad and typically spend a lot of time processing all I’ve learned as a result of my love life. However, this time around, I’ve decided to write you all an open letter in response to something that’s always... Read more »

These dating behaviors are reasons to move on

Not too long ago, one of my girlfriends, Candace and I were catching up on dating while out enjoying some drinks. She was in the middle of a guy swipe-fest on one of these popular dating apps, and that immediately gave way to a conversation about dating behaviors that make us batty. First they’re hot,... Read more »

Five relationship insights backed by studies

<b>Varying political views can affect relationships:</b>

<p> According to a study published in the journal Social Psychology and Personality Science, and authored by academics William Chopik and Matt Motyl, when you’re living with people that have different political views from your own, your ability to accept other perspectives may be affected. Moreover, living with people that share your views may reduce tension and make you happier, but “could be stifling healthy political disclosure.” </p>
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<p> <i>Why it’s logical:</i> Now, if you don’t agree on something as tense as politics, you could SEE how that can naturally cause a whole ton of friction, right? (Especially as polarizing as this election is with these candidates!) And, to add to that, it could be hard to really feel like you can connect and care for someone if you can’t agree on the same things. Even if you only agree to disagree. Otherwise, if you always fought when discussing politics, imagine how bad things can get…<p>

<a href="http://www.deccanchronicle.com/lifestyle/sex-and-relationship/090716/political-differences-may-affect-relationships-study.htm">Read more at Deccan Chronicle</a>
<p><a href="http://socialscience.msu.edu/about-us/news/?p=1507">Read more on MSU's website</a>
I will be the first to freely admit that as a person who writes/analyzes/fusses/theorizes on relationships, I LOVE studies and research on the topic. I mention them often on this site and truth of the matter is, in many cases, sometimes the findings can be insightful if you apply them to a larger context or... Read more »
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Is it time to break-up? Signs you don't ignore in a relationship

Is it time to break-up? Signs you don't ignore in a relationship
It’s definitely true that there are modern rules to the act of dating; however, the objective of dating will always be the same: spending time with someone to determine if you have a long-term future. Eventually, that assessment translates into a break-up or further progression of the relationship — ideally into something long-term or an “I do,”... Read more »

Are your personal dating preferences really useful?

Are your personal dating preferences really useful?
So apparently having dating preferences can be helpful when choosing a potential mate… To a point. Now before many of you shake your head and insist that checklists are important, hold on a second. Although I’m a fan of this too, there’s a new study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology to thank for this.... Read more »

Dating habits to break: Kissing the metaphorical frogs

Dating habits to break: Kissing the metaphorical frogs
It’s good to be optimistic, some would say. You know, for reasons of positive energy, glass half full, that kind of stuff. Generally speaking, I agree… However, I’d argue that too much of it can be a dangerous situation in relationships. At least, I would say I have “suffered from” too much optimism when it... Read more »
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Is it ever fine to lie to your first love? Well, maybe.

Is it ever fine to lie to your first love? Well, maybe.
So not to sound like a goody-goody, but I really, really hate telling lies. It’s not to say I haven’t told one. I just really hate them. I’m not sure what it is. Maybe it’s the Catholic guilt, or growing up with loving but strict grandparents… But something about being caught has scared me into... Read more »

Choosing yourself: When it's a good idea

Choosing yourself: When it's a good idea
As I allude to in my first post back to this blog, after more than four years in a long-term relationship, I suddenly found myself single earlier this year. Yes, right before the cold months and the holidays, when no one wants to be single. Now, granted, it was my choice. But it didn’t make... Read more »

Women, men and couple stress: Rutgers relationship study hits home

Women, men and couple stress: Rutgers relationship study hits home
Does an unhappy wife mean an unhappy life? No one ever said relationships would be easy. But then again, both the sweetest and the hardest things in live require you to go through a little bit of work before you can enjoy it or learn from it. I share this logical insight for two reasons:... Read more »
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Three Grown Up Holiday Situations In A Relationship

Three Grown Up Holiday Situations In A Relationship
So, the last few months have been a whirlwind and with good reason. Mainly because of turning the big 30 (you read right), finding amazing opportunities in my professional “grown up” life and taking real milestones as one half of a relationship. Essentially, I realize that I’m really and truly an adult. And when it... Read more »