Christmas may be the time for all the warm and fuzzies... But New Year's Eve? Now that's a time of a little debauchery, saying good-bye to the year that has passed, and hopefully ringing in a new year where you can start off again -- in-style.
I'll admit that while I love Christmas myself, it's New Year's that sends me all in a tizzy. And it's been a thing as I've entered the adult years, fussing over what I wear, where I go, who I celebrate the New Year with, whether this will be the year that I let my crush know how much I'm into him and of course who I do or don't share a bit of magic with at the stroke of midnight. Then you celebrate and POOF -- it's all over. And then you do it all over again, wishing for a do-over of the year somewhere by September...
But I digress.
Anyway, we're back at this time of the year and it's easy to repeat the cycle. But, with everything that's gone on, there are a few mistakes I'm aiming to avoid as I think of my love life in 2011. They may be common sense, but you'd be surprised at how easy they are to repeat...
- Not Starting From Scratch Each Time: This is a big one for me and one that I find myself doing a lot. Since the past went one way, it's easy to assume that following situations may also bring a little heartache. But, by doing that, I've found that I put myself in my own way. So starting from the beginning each time may go far!
- Afraid Taking Any Risks: Like many people, I shudder at the thought of rejection -- which means I didn't do much by way of risk-taking. So, if the feeling is strong, there's not much to lose by just going for it and seeing where the wind blows, huh? (Now this one is easier said than done...)
- More Happy, More Joy: I'm working on keeping a dose of optimism each time. Positive energy brings good things, it seems. Besides, sometimes you have to want to be with someone. And while I have
straddled the fence, it seems that I, in my 20-something
phase of life, have become a little more disillusioned than
some. For example, more than 30 percent of those surveyed 50 and up are looking
to find companions, according to SeniorPeopleMeet.com (a 50+ dating site by the Match.com folks). Now if they can
be more optimistic in a more seasoned phase of life, I'm sure I can muster up a bit of enthusiasm.
- Not Keeping An Open Mind: Truth is, if you're genuinely open to it, love may find you in the strangest ways. I remember that the first time I fell in love, I'd been on my way home from work when a guy I'd seen on my bus route a few times sat down next to me. I'd had a chip on my shoulder from a previous break-up and almost stood him up on our scheduled date! But I didn't and to this day, our year-and-change-long relationship is still one of the best love memories I have.
- Having Fun: While I have my moments when I imagine couplehood is nice, the truth is that right now, I have things pretty good in my life. Not perfect, but definitely not shabby either. And, by embracing these moments as I have them will make me feel that much better -- and that much more unstoppable. So I should celebrate my single while I have it!
All in all, I'd say that with the crazy ride this year has been, I only wonder what 2011 will bring...
This should be interesting.