All through history there have been people that have wanted to make their opinion known and often seek out others they feel they can impress with there "words of wisdom". Usually the subjects they seek are those with a lesser level of Independence and confidence. These insecure followers tend to hang on every word and allow those they look up to be the deciding factor in their own happiness; but there comes a point where you have to stop caring about what others think and listen to yourself.
There are many reasons why we look to others for validation; approval, acceptance even love. While we all need validation on some level, one cannot rely on the words of another every time. The down side of such behavior is becoming completely dependant on others to fulfill the happiness you should be able to give yourself. At the same time, you are allowing yourself to feel rejected if you do not receive the accreditation you are seeking; which leads to disappointment and heartbreak.
Living with this constant need can be consuming, so stop looking to others for the joy you should be providing for yourself. Stop caring so much about what other think, say or do; they are not you and cannot control you. Remind yourself each day that the world you life in is yours and you are in charge of it. Stop allowing others to affect you so deeply, and learn how to reject the negativity.
There is never going to be an end to the evil dictators of the world, and you are always going to come across somebody that doesn't like you; these are things you cannot control. What you do control is the effect you allow other to have on you. Find out if the people you go to for approval are giving it to you in an attempt to keep you submissive to them; a lot of times these "friends" enjoy the fact you idolize them so and give them such power.
Take it back, take your power back! Learn to love the person you are and treat the person with the respect he deserves. Keep those in your life that are there to support and respect you; all else are a waste of precious time and energy.
Once you put an end to the search of approval from others, you will discover a life less complicated,
and the happiness...bountiful!
Keep your heads up and your hearts full!
XOXO,
The Queer Guy
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