There are many things that one can plan for a date. Dinner, dancing, cruise out on the lake; living in Chicago affords us boundless opportunities to come up with some amazing dates! Even with all the options this amazing city has to offer, one of my favorite "dates" is when the guy invites his romantic interest over for a dinner that he is cooking for her! Your home is the most intimate setting, and having the chance to show off your culinary skills is always a bonus. To the guys that are lacking game in the kitchen, she will still think it's endearing (but have take-out numbers on hand)!
So note: I do encourage guys to plan a date at home cooking and getting to know each other while having some wine! It is nice to not be distracted by others. Having said that; cooking her dinner IS NOT OKAY ON A FIRST DATE! In fact, the idea is a little creepy. I will explain.
You meet a nice young woman and you both feel the chemistry and decide you would like to go on a date; this is good, and I am sure she is giddy with excitement. Next you mention to her that you would love for her to come over for dinner that will be prepared by you! This is where the giddy feeling turns to stomach turning. Even if your intentions are completely honorable (which I am sure they are) this plan is going to be perceived as desperate and a little creepy; as in what's for dinner...ME?
Not only is there weirdness in inviting a woman to your place for dinner that knows nothing about you, it also can read, well...cheap. Women like to be taken out to dinner, hell I do too; so I get it! As I mentioned a few blogs ago, she wants to be treated like a lady. I am not saying it comes down to the dollar; it's more to do with respect. Showing her that you are interested enough to put in the effort (to get dressed up, make plans, reservations) goes a long way on a first date.
Staying in and cooking=Great Date!
Staying in and cooking on a first date=Creepy, Desperate and Cheap!
Get it together guys; show her you are a gentleman, not Hannibal Lecter with social issues and an empty wallet!
And on a side note: If you are planning on a dinner at home, DO NOT INVITE HER OVER AND EXPECT HER TO COOK!!! Not to say she can't help; that's always makes for great conversation.
And Remember Guys,
When in fear, Ask The Queer