As he scopes out the crowd looking for his next target, this young woman at the bar talking with a friend catches his eye. He approaches her and forces his way into their conversation, trying to steal her attention. He goes through the introductions and she turns her back to him. As he keeps rambling, she is still sitting with back turned as if she is trying to give him a signal: GO AWAY!!!
Seriously, I watched this guy on Saturday night talk the back of this girl's head for about 15-20 minutes! It was the saddest thing to behold. So much so, I felt compelled to offer this young man some advice.
As I approached him, he seemed to have this false sense of confidence, as if he had just" landed the deal"! WRONG!
So, I kindly pull him aside and let him know he is pretty much wasting his time, but of course he does not believe me. He tells me he "had her" and once she let him buy her a drink he was gonna "talk to her". I know it gets worse. I told this not-so-bad-looking gentleman, the time for that had passed and he do better to move on.
He is still not getting it, so I explained; "When you introduce yourself to her and she explains to you that she was hanging out with a friend and refuses your drink offer, DOOR CLOSED! MOVE ON!"
Could this be an issue of low self-esteem, and he is unable to handle the rejection, or is he that sure of himself? If the later be the case, then wake up, Buddy; you need new game! Just like your penis told you within 12 seconds of seeing her, you were interested, her brain sent the opposite signal once you introduced yourself. This is how chemistry, or the lack thereof, works. Stop wasting your time, and creeping her out. People are watching and being seen as this desperate guy is not going to bode well for you as you make your rounds.
As a man, I understand the rejection issue, but it is a part of life. We all have to be rejected in life to figure out what it is we are truly meant for.
So, next time she turns her back to you; take a deep breath, swallow that pride and move on!
And remember guys...
When in fear, ask The Queer!