"I've loved him for a while, yet all he sees me as, is a friend. What is a girl to do?"
That was the query of a dear friend of mine lately. She is desperately in love with a guy who only sees her as his best bud, one of the guys. She is fiercely fighting to change herself in his eyes.
That got me to thinking: love is a common thing, and love being unrequited is probably even more common! We have become so despondent, as a people, that we can't see the people right next to us who love us, so we always have to go after the people who are emotionally unavailable. It is simply human nature.
But will this ever change? Will we ever see the error of our ways and try and find people who we know love us, and will not put up a fight once the secret gets out?
Another one of my friends has made a career of going after guys who want nothing to do with her, sadly. I have talked to her many times about choosing men who are so emotionally unattached with her, that they hardly know she exists!
Which led to this scary point: Are we become a nation of crooners? Are we simply choosing these people because we want to moan and squeal about our misfortunes, like Sinatra and Garland before us? Do we want the emotional unavailability because we want to be able to comment on it and harness that negative energy into other things, be they work, play or other?
I certainly think this is a possibility. Can we change it? Yes. Will we change it? No. We are simply too set in our ways to even think about changing. My two friends and the rest of us are simply doomed to a life of crooning over love.