Life is like riding a bike; once you learn how to fall, the ride will be alot easier. There is no perfect plan or formula for "the Good Life." Having a good life primarily consists of the determination to succeed despite your circumstances. Everyone has challenges in their lives; everyday there are inevitable challenges that we encounter as a result of our personal decisions or the decisions of our coworkers, partners, and family. Those decisions can either create a detour, or a minor annoyance. Such instances are inevitable, but how we deal with them is what matters most.
For a long time, especially when I was younger, my pet peeve was the idea that someone else could possibility ruin my day based on their actions or words. Though you plan, study, and work for certain outcomes, the lack of planning or sheer disruption on someone else's part can very well derail your pans. The challenges associated with life are magnified when someone else is the root cause. How then can you succeed in life when someone else can easily interfere? I learned the answer to that question while living in Brooklyn, NY. My daughter and I lived on the parlor floor of a brownstone in Brooklyn almost a decade ago. The block was tree lined and we had great neighbors and friends. We also had a schedule and plan that was perfect for that season of our lives. Though I was young, I was confident that I had a handle on the major details of my life. However, I still lived in New York; a place with hundreds and thousands of other people. When we exited the wooden doors and entered the outside world, we were now faced with everyone else's agendas, values, and standards. My plans were often voided or adjusted, despite my ability to plan. Below are five steps that I recommend that you attempt daily. They can ease your frustration and allow for a sense of peace:
1.Have a plan: Even in the smallest task, it is important to have a basic plan of action. Once you have an objective for even the smallest task, you will spend less money and time on the nonessential details.
2. Be flexible: Even though you create a basic plan, also build in additional options, and be able to adjust your plan while still accomplishing your objective.
3.Surround yourself with good people: Maintain a safe and positive environment even while at work. Trying to achieve this may mean that you no longer eat in the lunch room, or have drinks after work. Positive people or flying solo is essential for maintaining basic self care.
4. Take a break: Practicing self care daily may mean going for an extra walk to the copy machine, or reading a chapter of your favorite book during your lunch break. This may also enable you to have time to gear up for the remainder of your day. The same applies in your daily home life.
5. Have realistic expectations: Having realistic expectations of yourself and other people allows for less disappointment; less disappointment leads to less stress and anxiety. Therefore work to maintain realistic expectations for yourself and other; they will thank you later.
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