Blondes V. Redheads
If there's one thing my ex (not so affectionately known as Ginger Phile No. 2) made clear, it's that he hated blondes. I once showed him a picture of my college roommates and said, "Aren't they attractive?" and he replied, "No, they're blonde."
Anyone with straight, dark hair, pale skin and Betty Page bangs would get his blood flowing a little faster. When I suggested I always wanted hair like that, he encouraged me to dye mine. While this was probably his ideal look, he also liked redheads, once making an aside that he "wished he'd fucked all the redheads in Chicago." Ew, sick, gross, no?
Well, I must have turned him onto blondes. Not because I'm blonde myself, obviously, but because he realized all redheads are #batshitcray, me being the worst of them. He always told me I was crazy, which is partially true, but mostly his way of manipulating women into thinking they are wrong, as many men do. (Sorry, soapbox rant.) Lots of our conversations would go like this:
Him: You're cray cray.
Me: Why am I cray cray?
Him: Because you're a redhead. All redheads are crazy.
And when I told him my hair was getting lighter, as a result of aging, he'd freak out. He made it clear he wasn't going to find me attractive as a blonde. (Yeah, yeah red flag, I know.) But recently, I was stalking him on Facebook only to find a picture of him next to, you guessed it, a blonde. Now, I've envied blondes all my life. Men (and women) instantly add at least 2 points to their attractiveness rating primarily because they are blonde. Not-so-cute blondes get hit on more than their plain-Jane brunette friends. It's just a fact of life.
Yet he finds -- or found -- blondes unattractive. He must really, really like this girl, and/or is probably convincing her to go to brunette at any moment. Or, I gave him way too much trouble and he decided he'd never go out with a redhead ever again and actually opened his mind to the prospect of dating blondes. Either way, I like to think I made him like blondes, because I proved to him that redheads are #batshitcray. But mostly, I like to believe I had the power to turn him into an anti-ginger phile.
What do you think? Can ginger philes be changed into anti-ginger philes?