We have always said that beauty is a subjective appraisal. To this day, scholars of aesthetics and philosophers have failed to agree on its definition,since,according to them,the beauty is not defined, but recognized,hence the famous quote: "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." By being relative, there is no universal standard,but perhaps we all agree that it is what we find pleasing to the senses.
What is not under discussion is that for each person,social group,race,age,etc., there is a very special and dissimilar way of aesthetic perception.For example,the exuberant bodies of previous decades,the women with giraffe necks,the strange facial piercings of certain tribes in Africa or America,the extremely tiny feet of Chinese women,the heartthrobs’ smug mustaches from the 50's films, etc, etc,are just some cases that prove this thesis.
But all this I’ve mentioned,doesn’t have any other function than smoothing the way to the destination of my lines,which purpose is more radical and critical:the effort to boycott the undeniable beauty claim, action that is sadly exercised mostly by us, females of an always disputing nature,of suspicion and anxiety,before those that,even if it hurts to the bone,are undeniably beautiful,here,in China or Africa without makeup,dressed as circus clowns or with the most frayed and loose stowaway costume.Yes, it weighs a lot, but that's the way it is ... from the tip of their longest eyelash, till what we intend to find as calluses on their feet,the beauty is present.
Let’s suffer less and surrender to our distant opponents,admiring their attributes and accepting our own,far from magnifying our frustration with statements that neither of us believe: "she looks like a slut" - a phrase that merely unhelpful, since unconsciously or consciously, awakens a more wide imagination in the viewing gentleman ... "she is clearly an ignorant" ... hey, she is not admired for the way she solves crosswords ... "she is obviously a climber" ... I rather don’t tell you what I believe the guys to be thinking ... "with so much money, I would do the same surgeries "... statement that does nothing but hurt our own wounds, since besides not being comparable to the mentioned beauty makes us declare ourselves, indigents.
Staying away from these common attitudes sounds easy, but it's not ... I advise as if it was easy to change something that runs naturally through my veins in my womanhood, because as an infallible act, for example,I register as a scanner the one running next to me, in an effort to find the tiniest trace of flab on her thighs - condition that worsens with age - perhaps because with it, more that finding some joy in her misfortune, I find comfort in my condition.
It is natural to rejoice for the usual Photoshop that is applied in the images of magazine models, probably because we feel to mitigate what we cannot achieve with our efforts: diets,crunches,cucumber masks at night,etc, seeking to create a homogeneous group, among celebrities and us, all of perfectible beings, anomalous and earthlings.
I believe that a healthy solution to end this constant and unnecessary misery is to reverse the effect and admire or at least remain silent without seeking useless antidotes against the beauty of the congener, without thinking what we lack in our own. Remember what we like about ourselves and that is in our grasp, that can be improved , and is a good medicine, because the beauty of each is magical: increases or decreases, not only because of the narrowness of our waists or the length of our legs, but by what comes out of our mouths and our attitudes express.
To deny someone’s beauty, only enhances our own weaknesses... Food for thought.
My beautiful readers receive a hug.