In our daily lives and as an automatic action, we all tend to compare. We use this tool, mostly to explain or make something understandable, anything. When we have difficulty convincing others about certain theories or when our interlocutor is skeptical of our thesis, even if it is verifiable, we use this mechanism - the comparison - to support our detailed explanation. It is then, absolutely valid to use this dialectic resource... but be cautious and restraint with it, because if we use it constantly in our daily walk through life, we can easily fall into a deep and permanent unhappiness, a choking dissatisfaction and perhaps into a frustration that may lead to harmful feelings like envy, constant anger and low self-esteem, to mention just a few.
For example, today I admire the tiny dimensions of a friend that eats like a hungry Neanderthal and her very slender shape remains intact, but I learn and acknowledge that my body is not, or will never be as that, not even fasting for six uninterrupted months. Celebrating her condition just as it is and without comparing it with mine, reassures me, protects myself from any spasm recognizing that the parity becomes unachievable. So I wish it happens to her, appreciating and accepting the delicate features of another friend or the brilliant creativity, charm and noticeable personality of another one, such as the disciplined life and strong thoughts /convictions of a fourth one ... what a delightful cocktail! .
The day that we achieve as a society and based on which we are already considered adults, recognizing that our physical, intellectual, attitudinal, ideological, etc, differences, just make us special and attractive to belong to a group because they add value with their originality and unique charm, the visits to the psychologist will significantly be reduced, I could almost bet on it. If we also permeate this achievement in our subsequent generations, many troubles that afflict today unnecessarily will become considerably extinct: the boy who calls himself unwise for not being first, second or third place in math (but brilliant in music), the girl that judges herself obese for not fitting into jeans size 5, the teenager that considers himself awkward for not playing football as his big brother, although he is a computer genius, etc.
And finally I would just like to invite (starting with me, that should put it into daily practice) to make the simple question that silences spiritual ailments, every time we feel ugly, boring, old, fat, scrawny, ordinary, too short, too tall, insipid , etc: Compared to whom ?.
My big hug.