Not Every Girl Is A Gold Digger

Not Every Girl Is A Gold Digger

Not every GIRL is a gold digger. Last night while at D. Wade's fundraiser for his charity Wades World Foundation sponsored by Hennesey at Enclave - I was called a gold digger by an associate of mine. Now many of you know that I've had a crush on a certain Chicago celebrity for a long time (can't tell you how long for fear of seeming overly weird) and the fact that he is a millionaire and I don't have two dimes to rub together implies that I am a gold digger.

Well, I was utterly offended by this because I liked this guy before I EVEN KNEW WHO THE HELL HE WAS. We met at a youth awareness event where he was introduced to me as a youth activist and I the same. I fell "in-fatuated" while he was just going with the motions. This year I've actually been able to get on first name bases with this guy and hopefully solidify a chance to win his heart. Although he isn't really "going" ... YET!

However, my associate informed me that he is offended by "common women" that go after  "rich guys" simply because they want a ticket out of the ghetto. Just because I'm not on his level financially doesn't mean that I am looking at him as a meal ticket and a cab ride to Neiman Marcus. Women are stereotyped as gold diggers when they happen to fancy more so established men. THIS IS A COMMON MIND STATE. WOMEN WANT MEN THAT CAN PROVIDE FOR THEM. CHECK THE WALLS ON THE FIRST MAN CAVE.  I can't help that I rarely date guys that are under 6'4 - I like BIG MEN and when I met this BIG man he made me call on the name of Jesus.

The point is that I personally like this guy because we have darn near the same up-bringing, family structure, passion in life and goals. The fact that he has money makes no difference to me and I have tweeted numerous times that I sometimes wish he didn't because then I wouldn't have to go through so much to prove that I am here for the right reasons. Last night the phrases "gold digger" and "groupie" were a constant within individual conversations. It's so insulting to think that women that fancy a certain "brand" and or "type" of man are deemed a hindrance to the true testament of love.

Lord forbid you go to an event where celebrities, athletes and local socialites are dressed up because you'd be categorized as " a girl that's trying to get chose" as ridiculous as that sounds. Which adds to one of my themes that I always splatter within my blogs that highlights the importance of going out looking your best at all times. A woman that loves her self walks, looks and acts like it and THAT is what makes everyone else fall in love with her.  So, why would I come to an event as upscale as last nights looking like I help take addicts to the rehab in nice form fitting white coats? The ideology behind bitter people that are upset because no one is "checking" for them is absolutely comical.  Overall, I had a fantastic night. Estelle performed her heart out and looked amazing doing it.  D. Wade was hilarious and social with not only his friends and supporters but also the crowd which is different. I felt the love in the room and every one was excited about the overall purpose of the event. Too bad a game of "Spot the Gold Diggers" was a trending topic as a result!

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    Uh yeah you are. Which I have nothing against if your honest about it. I hang with a some women who culturally marry men who make more, but the biggest difference is that 85% have degrees and can obtain the things that future hubbies can provide. You graviatate to blk 6-4 and taller who attend certain events, ballers. Do you date the same guys if the only make 100-150K? I have my doubts.

  • I agree, not all are golddiggers. Some just want cash and others diamonds.
    :)

  • In reply to publiusforum:

    ^^^HA! The 'Stashe bringing in some comedy. Nice work.

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    I don't think anything is wrong with seeking a Man who is established and financially secure. It's wrong only when you take advantage of their money! Men have their preferences when it comes to women, so why can't we? It's a shame that women like us have to fight so hard for their attention cuz of THEIR bad experiences w/women. "Such is Life" as you would say..

  • If all a woman has ever shown interest in are men with a lot more wealth than she has then there is room to call her a gold digger, but if just happens to like a guy who turns out to be rich I think that's an unfair label.

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    LOVE this article...Gold-Diggers are very obvious and are usually proud to wear that label. From the spirit that pours from your blogs, that doesn't describe you at all. But I understand where you are coming from. I work in professional sports production and also have some clients (some HNW) that I consult with for various projects. For years that has been a chief accusation that I received--that I was some kind of gold-digger trying to "land" a player or a wealthy ticket holder. I wasn't even seeking anyone out, although often times they sought ME out, and it was pretty much for similar reasons as you cited (I'm social and I walk, dress and act like I am SOMEBODY--arrogant? no, it's just that I recognize that every gift comes from God and we all know God "don't make no junk". it's for ME not for anyone else, but if anyone else notices, well HEY). And while it is true that I wasn't interested in a man who can't take care of himself or his own, that didn't mean I wanted or needed him to take care of me--see opening statements in this comment. I got married nine months ago and yes my hubby is 6'1" and has his own organization with presence in several states, and for that, some say that I'm a gold digger--but then again, some have looked at MY stats and actually called HIM the gold digger! Truth is he has my back and I have his, which doesn't always involve financial support anyway. Our team is dynamic--him, myself and God. Believe it or not, some people are afraid of that. Girl you hit it on the head when you said these are people who are mad that no one is checking for them. You were polite enough not to use the H word, but I will use it here--they are called Haters. They don't care what kind of man you go for, they're afraid you will actually GET HIM.

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