The Experience of Stress: Part 6

Time tends to be a factor when it comes to the experience of stress. When there are many roles you may play or responsibilities that demand your time, how to manage your time to meet these pressures can be stressful. Shannan Younger, who works for a small nonprofit organization, is married and is raising a tween daughter, shared her experience about her stress.

“…I work from home and it is an interesting set up, which in some ways reduces stress in terms of no commute hassle. With the easy commute, though, comes the difficulty of escaping work-it feels like it is always there and sometimes it is hard to turn it off.”

In trying to find that balance, where working from home is not such a “threat” and that she feels more in control of the work demands while at home, Younger discusses how setting boundaries is something she is working on. She believes that setting boundaries with her work time and family time will help reduce some of the stress she experiences, as it will allow her to “turn off” the work mind and/or the family mind. In fact, learning to set appropriate boundaries is an effective strategy to help manage, reduce and even “prevent” future perceptions of stress. Another important aspect of setting boundaries is the skill of saying “no” to certain things that may not fit in with one’s values and/ or wants/needs. While Younger shares that saying no is difficult, “…it almost always results in me being less stressed. Being aware of my limits and honoring them helps me be less stressed.”

As a parent, Younger finds that raising a tween daughter in this age of technology is also stressful. What helps her is finding information about things that are of concern. “The more informed I am, the better I feel”. If knowledge is power, then there is a sense of mastery and competence that comes with finding relevant information. This can come from doing research or even from one’s peers.  “Occasionally, other tween parents share really helpful suggestions and that’s awesome, “ Younger states.  Information from others that can relate can not only help one feel a sense of competency (I can do this),  it can also provide a sense of support. As Younger states, “…I often hear that I’m not the only parent with the same concerns and knowing that I’m not alone is helpful”.

How can setting boundaries and finding information help you with managing, reducing, preventing or embracing your stress?

To learn more about Younger, click here.

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