Stressors are those people, places, things, thoughts, feelings, interpretations, etc. that trigger the flight-fight response. Stressors are external and internal. These are very person specific, as we each tolerate stress differently. Some of us are more stress sensitive than others. Some of us tend to be untouched by the stress response (although our bodies may be reacting). Whatever the case, the idea is that some stress we do actually elicit ourselves, in terms of how we perceive the stressor : as a demand, a threat, etc. As someone once stated, “One man’s trash is another man’s treasure.”
Doug Thonus shared his strategies for managing the demands/pressure in his life. Currently, he is going through a divorce and has young children. “I frequently am involved in arguments or problems over custody, assets or other divorce related things while only having control over my side of the equation.”
On strategy to managing stress is in looking for what one can control. Thonus states “Sometimes negative things happen around you that you can’t control or solve. In these situations, you can still control your reaction. Learning not to get upset about situations you can’t alter or control has helped me remove a lot of the unnecessary stress from my life.” Thus, while he recognizes that there are external factors he cannot control, Thonus focuses on one thing he is aware that he can control in any situation: his own reactions.
A second strategy that can be used (and one that Thonus uses regularly), is that or problem solving. At work in particular, he finds this works effectively with situations that he may not even have much information about. For example, when there is a technical issue that has not been resolved, by the time it gets to him, he doesn’t know much about the problem. Probably solving; however, “helps eliminate the stress because it’s actively pursuing a solution.” Being proactive, seeking solutions and taking the initiative in obtaining necessary information are effective ways to manage, reduce, prevent, and/or embrace stress.
How can your perception of control and problem solving help you?
To learn more about Thonus, check his link here.
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