Dog Grieves The Loss of Her Pal

Dog Grieves The Loss of Her Pal
Gracie

Q: We lost our Soft-Coated Wheaton Terrier, and it's still very difficult to talk about and deal with the loss. Poor Gracie, our other dog, has also had a tough time, and it's been heartbreaking. I think Gracie is still waiting for McGee to come home. There's no way to tell her that's not going to happen. How can we help Gracie through this difficult period? -- S.O., Chicago, IL.

A: I'm very sorry for your loss. I -- and many other readers -- have felt a similar hole in our hearts. We don't really know what surviving pets are thinking when it appears for all the world as if they're grieving. They may be, or they may be merely picking up on our sorrow. It could be they're only responding to a sudden change in the household - or the changes may be a combination of all those things. Personally, I'm convinced that pets (who we know, for a fact, feel emotion) can grieve. But why do some pets appear absolutely unaffected by the loss of a best pal? No one knows.

"On average, people actually take about two years to grieve the loss of a loved one," says Sue Yellen, Glenview, IL-based clinical psychologist and chicagonow.com blogger. "I suspect many pets do grieve, though we don't understand that grieving period."

She adds, "It's a difficult balance, you want to give attention to people who are grieving, and I believe the same is true for grieving pets. However, you also don't want to reward sad behavior too much."

Try to keep a regular schedule for Gracie's activities, so there's a consistent structure to her life. Feed her and take her for walks at about the same time you always have. Playing with a dog's favorite toy is probably the best antidote (for dogs who enjoy play), and the exercise is a great outlet for both you and your pet.

from Steve Dale's nationally syndicated newspaper column, ©Steve Dale, Tribune Media Services

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  • Hi Steve, yes, I have this type of discussion often with my FB friends and plan to share your blog post with them for their comments. After having 4 cats and 2 dogs (cats are now deceased), I can't believe that animals don't sense that something has changed and grieve that change, whatever it is. Great blog. Sue

  • We lost our cat of 18 years a couple of months back. My wife thinks i'm crazy but i do a viewing for the other pet's so they know. I do it one at a time. But animals do know and do miss people and other pets.

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