My daughter is multi-ethnic with a rich blend of cultures from both sides of her blood line.
I've exposed my child to second and third languages and have always made her know both sides of her family and culture.
Of all things I have done, the most ingenious has been buying my daughter black dolls.
My sister, as well, has gifted ebony-colored Barbies to my daughter.
Of course, my child has other dolls of other colors:Brown, Tan, White...
Yet, the black doll is most important because it drives a deeper message.
It says that color does nothing to the quality of the doll. The doll still is fun to play with. The doll can sit on the shelf with the other dolls. The doll can go with my daughter to the sitter or play tea time.
I know I sound nuts, but here is where it comes together:
By buying dolls of different colors, my daughter has no perception of the differences in people due to their color.
She plays the same with her black doll as she does her white one.
Each of her dolls, black or white, get good night kisses and are tucked in with her at night.
My daughter sees my mother, her grandmother, who is chocolate skinned, as the best thing since sliced bread.
Her Mexican gramdmother gets the same loving hug and kiss and can do no wrong in my daughter's eyes.
Sometimes, I'll see my daughter grabbing the darkest colored doll.and stroking its hair saying, "Pretty."
She has done the same with her white Cabbage Patch doll.
A day at the park with my child means her making friends on the playground with children of all colors.
It just is natural for her.
Yet, I know wholeheartedly that introducing dolls of other colors into my home has molded my child's thought process surrounding race and ethnicity.
In understanding the process of the mind, I see that our judgments of others are due to our visualization of people at a young age.
Our life is affected if we are exposed only to things that are common to our culture.
Anything that is NOT common to our culture can be deemed in our thought process as strange or inferior because we weren't shown anything else.
My advice: Don't exhibit differences in people through one-sided toys.
Just because you are Caucasian doesn't mean your child should only have white dolls.
The same applies to any other race.
I am a firm believer in teaching equality to children at a young age.
Breaking down the inequality factors in society that place predetermined paths for us to follow when raising our children is key.
Be different. Just BE...
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