The list of both A- and D-Listers has gotten a lot longer lately—and it’s starting to get a little old saying the same thing.
For a blog focused on apologies, you would think that I would be chomping at the bit waiting to write about any and every news bit that hits my Inbox. But there’s a problem —when you are just writing the same thing but with a different name, the blog looks empty.
There is nothing new to observe.
The insights are nothing new.
Everything is vanilla, boring and (as I write things) empty.
Apologies are getting emptier and emptier with each passing opportunity, and this has come to light over the past two weeks listening to the lackluster apologies (and subsequent statements) from Maher and Griffin.
- Both committed acts that a lot of people did not agree with.
- They did and said things that put a lot of people at odds with the craft that each has worked so hard over their careers to put forth.
- And their responses, while different in approach, were as empty and as hollow as the actions.
Maher’s statement of regret was based on a lack of sleep.
Griffin’s statement was because she felt bullied. Neither expressed any sympathy or responsibility of hurting, offending, or disappointing people.
Neither talked about how the situation would be fixed (other than Griffin talking about how she will continue to mock Trump and, in the process, keep the fire of her actions brightly lit).
This is more than troubling; it’s dangerous territory.
Make Apologies Great Again
As actors, I know these people are in the business of memorizing lines and (at times) faking emotions and feelings. I didn’t know it would be an issue when asked for each of them to be human beings as well.
Then I started looking at more of the apologies that people have issued; how they have issued them; to whom they were addressed. Not just the ones that I have written about, but those that others have written or highlighted. The same sort of emptiness exists.
What can we do about this? Can we have input on others? Maybe. Perhaps I am making a plea that will probably be unfulfilled, but if you are reading this please start apologizing for things and actually mean it.
I know, I know, I sound like my mother, but even she would agree with me—we need to put some real substance behind our words and actions.
Try it home with your wife and kids.
Try it at work with your boss and co-workers when you mess up.
Try it with your personal trainer when you “say” you’re doing what they asked you but you’re going out for a hot fudge sundae when you leave.
Stop being empty. Complete the act of apology by fulfilling a promise on how to fix things.