Category: Parenting

My COVID Coping Plan

My COVID Coping Plan
"Coping" sounds a little dramatic to me, because I have it better than most. I'm used to my kids being at home, and my husband will now join us- AND keep earning a salary. We live in a house with a yard, so we can escape each other. No one is on any medications or has allergies. We're not in the stage in our lives where we'll be missing out on high school or college memories, weddings, or big travel. I feel very grateful. But, I'm me, so I also feel much more sane and safe with a PLAN. God bless the moms and teachers out there who are creating and sharing content for our kids. We will all adapt and overcome with this e-learning in place. There are so many good ideas out there, so this post will contain a structure for implementation, plus a few creative ways to connect with people without physically being around them. Weekday Schedule (explanations at bottom; outside time based on hourly weather)...

Some days are better than others

Some days are better than others
My husband and I have come to the realization that some days are better than others. We used to get caught up on the bad days, feeling paralyzed in our negativity. And then, when the good days came, we'd feel a weight lift, like everything would always be okay. Inevitably, though, we'd have another bad day, and get down on ourselves...
These kids fight constantly. They're going to be the adult siblings that never speak to each other. Wow- I can't believe how well they're building that Lego tower together. They're definitely going to vacation together when they're older! We're having the same argument again. Are we just always going to resent each other? Oh my gosh- he's making me laugh so hard. Maybe we can get the pre-kids "us" back! This baby is never going to sleep through the night... Huh- the baby hasn't woken in the night in forever. This is amazing!
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The disruptive kid in the Christmas pageant...was my own

The disruptive kid in the Christmas pageant...was my own
What upset me most about my five year old's behavior in the Christmas pageant? Well... To preface this, if we all threw our parenting problems in a pile, I would pull out "kid with ADHD" again. Of all the things, there are way worse challenges that face my fellow parents. My disappointment yesterday comes from the age-old mantra: "I know your potential. I've seen you accomplish this. I know you can do better. So...why didn't you?"...
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Six ways this pessimist practices gratitude

Six ways this pessimist practices gratitude
It's true: I believe that I'm a pessimist at heart. I work hard to be positive, but it IS work for me. To be fair, I think it's human nature to notice the bad and overlook the good. Here are six ways this pessimist practices gratitude: ...

Five summer #momfails

Five summer #momfails
Well, the longest summer ever is drawing to a close (three days to go)! Here's a recap of five summer #momfails, and what I can improve on next summer...

An 8 year old writes his first blog post

An 8 year old writes his first blog post
Hi! My name is Logan. I am eight years old. I am writing about what my mom and dad have taught me over the years. Most of my learning has been at home. The reason I think this is important is because I can be a better person. (Also, I did NOT want to write this, but my mom forced me to write it.)...
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My game plan for the Longest. Summer. Ever.

My game plan for the Longest. Summer. Ever.
This year, our summer is 3+ months long: end of May until early September. Part of me loves that; part of me is mama deer in headlights. Here is my game plan for the Longest. Summer. Ever. ...

My husband got a vasectomy, and I was not expecting what happened next

My husband got a vasectomy, and I was not expecting what happened next
First of all, my husband is fine. This is not a story of balls gone wrong, so sorry to disappoint. Nor is this a surprise-we're-having-a-fourth-baby announcement. What we were not expecting was our seven year old's reaction... 7 year old: But WHY did you have surgery, Daddy? Daddy: Well, there's a procedure that a doctor can do that makes it so you can't have any more babies. Our oldest son's eyes went wide. He stared up at my husband, and then found his way down to me, playing on the floor with the baby. 7 year old: ...no more babies...? He burst into tears and crumpled to the floor. My husband and I looked at each other, shocked. Neither of us had told the kids the specifics, and neither of us had expected this. Me: Oh, buddy... I pulled him toward me, and he let himself be wrapped in my arms. He nuzzled his face into my shoulder and I could feel the trickle of tears and hear his little sniffles. We sat there on the kitchen floor, and I held my seven year old in the same way that I've been holding my almost-one year old. It is a strange stage of parenting in which we find ourselves......

Where can I let go in 2019?

Where can I let go in 2019?
"Where can I let go in 2019?" That's a question I've asked myself lately, as I'm feeling tension between my boys and within me. Basically, I often want things to be different than they are. You could also call it not accepting my reality or having way too high of expectations. So, here's my plan for 2019...
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Five chores to teach your kids this summer

Five chores to teach your kids this summer
Here are five chores to teach your kids this summer. I recommend having low expectations, some favorite kids' songs, and a bottle of wine on hand. Keep in mind that some chores take 5-50 times to learn. I've broken chores down into several age-appropriate skills. When it comes to chores, imagine a scaffold. Your kid isn't going to wash all the dishes on day one. Start at the bottom and work your way up. You may be surprised: this past Christmas, my husband let our 6 1/2 year old help with Christmas lights. For our son, he got to go on the roof with Dad. For my husband, he had an extra set of hands, and someone to talk to. Chores can be a bonding experience. Or, they can suck, too. Low expectations, remember? :)...