Thank you for your many lessons, Difficult Child

Thank you for your many lessons, Difficult Child

Dear Difficult Child,

Thank you for your many lessons. I was really starting to think that I was an amazing parent, based on your older brother, but now I realize that he is just a people pleaser who happens to be fairly EASY. You are neither of those things. But I want to thank you.

If it weren't for you, I wouldn't have been knocked down a peg. I would have gone on judging other moms for their less-than-perfect children (of which I'm still often guilty). Now I see that their "lax" parenting might be their greatest success. Sometimes, the best I can get you to do is to scream at 120 decibels instead of 140. That's progress.

If it weren't for you, I wouldn't have learned that the most fun you can have with a crayon is to tear apart the paper covering. It really adds a festive touch to have paper shreds sprinkling the floor at home...and the library...and church. Actually using the crayons to color with (their intended purpose) is for losers; it's sooo last season. You go on thinking outside the (crayon) box, You!

If it weren't for you, I wouldn't have realized that parties aren't for everyone. Who wants to converse with other human beings and play with toys when you can hang out in the "dark, dark, dark" in your friend's laundry room? I mean, what kids are afraid of the dark? That's not a thing, is it?

And, if it weren't for you, I would have no grasp of what it is to love unconditionally. There are some days that I don't like you. But when I take a step back, I see that what I don't like is that you're not doing what I want you to do, or what I think you should do. You are exactly as you're supposed to be.

So, you keep doing you, Difficult Child. I will call you out for screaming, because most people value their hearing. But who says that crayons can't be naked? Or that hanging out in dark laundry rooms is weird? Please keep teaching Mommy how to be less controlling and more accepting. Soon, everyone around her will be thanking you, too.



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