As part of Abundant Mama's #BanBusy challenge, I'm sharing two previously written posts on the subject of "busyness." Please visit Abundant Mama and join the #BanBusy movement!
Stop saying, "I'm busy." Just. Stop. This phrase always bothers me, but especially so around the holidays.
I used to employ this phrase quite often. I am the Social Butterfly Mom, after all. Being busy is what I do.
Then I started paying attention to how I felt when others said it to me. Et voila, wonder of wonders, I began to look at why and when I said it. Biggest observation: the "busiest" people rarely complain about being busy. They organize their time, get a lot done, and take it all in stride.
Here's why I stopped, and why you should, too. It all comes back to #3...
1) EVERYONE is busy. Everyone has a job, a family, friends, hobbies, etc. Saying that you're busy due to working, family commitments, or social activities is stating the obvious.
2) It diminishes the importance of the other person. Ever had a friend with whom you try and plan something, and his response is, "Ugh...I'm just so busy." Yeah, well, see #1, Buddy. Saying, "I'm busy" when planning an event with someone else implies that your time is more valuable than the other person's time.
3) We all CHOOSE what we do. It's as simple as that. Whether it's five parties every weekend in December, traveling with the kids from this city to that city, or taking care of a loved one who is not well, we all have our priorities.
I have to check myself (and sometimes, my husband has to), when I complain about our social calendar filling up. I DO IT TO MYSELF. There is no one else to blame. Saying that so-and-so is having a party that I just have to go to is bullsh*t. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
Chances are, if you find yourself saying, "Oh, I'd like to do XYZ, but I'm just really busy," then you don't truly care to participate in XYZ. And that's okay.
Reflect on what your priorities are; what you always find the time to fit in. If you really want to do that one thing or see that one person, you make it happen. No one is ever too busy.
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