Those of you who know me are aware of the 12 year long hardships my husband, Martin, and I have endured with our adopted son with severe behavior disorder. Those who read my last blogJust Another Day with My Son with an Invisible Disabilitygot a small glimpse of the sorts of challenges we face on a regular basis. For those of you who neither know me nor read my blog, in a nutshell, on the snow day of February 2, 2015, my son broke our 39" HDTV, a printer, his cellphone and some other stuff in a fit of rage.
It is now almost 2 weeks later and I have to admit that I am actually happy that my son broke our TV...and here is why.
1. The house is deliciously quiet due to the lack of horrible noises emanating from the former TV from the horrendous shooter video games that my son and apparently every other teenage boy and most adult males spend endless hours playing.
2. There is no longer any discussion, arguments nor negotiations about whether or not I will buy him any more gory and inappropriate shooter video games because HE CAN'T PLAY THEM BECAUSE WE NO LONGER HAVE A FUCKING TV BECAUSE HE BROKE IT.
3. I no longer have to threaten, negotiate and ultimately drag him off the gory and inappropriate shooter video games he plays on the TV, again, because NO TV.
4. He can no longer spend 14 hours a day on Saturdays and Sundays playing aforementioned shooter video games which is what he would like to do given half a chance.
5. He will be paying to replace the printer and the TV with the money he is earning at After School Matters City Chefs Program.
Did I forget to mention that my son is cooking...yup, you read it, right, cooking???? The day after the rampage he started the City Chefs program at Lawrence Hall. It meets on Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Fridays from 4-7pm for the next 8 weeks. He wears a chef coat and a hair net and he follows recipes and cleans up after himself...something he categorically refuses to do at home...and he loves it. The best part is that he brings home what he cooks...and the even bestest part is that they are paying him $350 buckeroos if he completes the program. So, let's see...$70 to replace the printer and $280 to replace the TV = $350 which leaves him with 0, zip, zilch, nada.
6. On the days when there is no cooking, he goes to his friend's house directly from school because his friend still has a TV and he can play his horrible, disgusting shooter video games there, even though he tells me he doesn't spend much time doing that. Yeah, right! We don't see him until 7pm when I pick him up from his friend's house.
7. We brought up the old analog TV from the basement, installed the box...you remember the black box that you needed to buy in order to make your analog TV work when it all went digital? Someone gave me one for free. That is now at the bottom of our bed and we get to watch TV in bed! Yippee!!!
8. He has agreed to try medication and/or talk therapy again since I made it clear that if this ever happens again, he will no longer be living with us. We'll see if he actually meant it.
9. He has been very contrite and more cooperative which translates into his getting out of the damn bed in the morning and getting into the car and so to school on time without me having a crying fit/nervous breakdown.
10. We have broken the cycle of his spending every waking moment at home playing shooter video games.
I told my son that I am so enjoying being an HDTV free home, that I won't consider getting another one for at least another 2 weeks. As you make your bed, so you must lie. Amirite or amirite?
Have you ever had a catastrophe that turned out to have a silver lining? I would love to hear your stories!
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