Please Bear With Me!


I am going to play the "age card" and the "stressed out special needs parent card" when I ask everybody to bear with me when it comes to my confusion about technology. I am so old, I not only remember Pong, I played it the first time around, for God's sake! Did you know there used to be an international Pong tournament in Ireland? Ah, the things you learn listening to National Public Radio. It doesn't appear to still be a happening thang, sadly.

Anyway, I didn't get my first computer until 2004 at age 50 and I didn't even know how or where to put in a URL so it has been a very steep learning curve for me. My hubby, Martin, is absolutely no help. He decided to opt out of computer use, which is not that easy to do these days unless you live under a rock, not to mention that fact that if you don't keep up with technology in your field, you get left behind, big time. That is what is happening to both of us. The person in our household who is the most tech savvy is my 13 year old son. He's my go-to tech guy. Unfortunately, if he can't figure it out, I am screwed. I need to find a more reliable technology advisor. Anybody up for trading massage therapy for tech guru services? PM me!

Speaking of the 13 year old. It has been a very rocky and stressful start to the new school year. He went to summer school this summer, something he has not done for several years. All good. He did very well, there, since there were only 4 kids in the classroom. One day he was the only one who showed up, so he got to go on an unofficial "field trip" with his teacher to the pet store. However, summer school finished on July 30, so he had an entire month to just sleep in and veg in front of the computer.


Then, when it came time to go back to school, he couldn't drag himself out of bed in the mornings. He is, after all, a teenager. Their circadian rhythms are completely different than they are at any other point in a human's life. Lots of studies indicate that teens can't get to sleep until late at night and can't get up early in the morning. They should start school at 11am. Apparently, we all know this and yet, we continue to insist that they start school early in the morning, some as early as 7:30am. We all know that many teenagers are barely conscious for the first 2 or 3 periods of high school. If they started at 11am, they would learn so much more. I asked a member of the Chicago Teachers Union about this. He said that "if enough parents and teachers got control of their schools through an elected school board," the schedule could change. Interesting. But, I digress.

My son was late on day 2, and missed day 4 and day 5 because he was too tired to go. Actually, I suspect that what is going on has a lot to do with reintegration. My son is in a therapeutic day school and has been there since the last few months of 2nd grade. The intent is for these students to "reintegrate back into a mainstream school." When you have spent most of your elementary school years in a classroom with 6-7 other students and a school population of 45 kids, going to a school where you have 30 classmates would be totally overwhelming. My son wants to reintegrate in time for high school or so he says. However, every time he gets to the point where he would be able to start the reintegration process, he self destructs. His teacher, his social worker and I believe this is what is going on.

As you can well imagine, it has been extremely stressful. In fact, we have dealt with this kind of thing on a regular basis for the past 12 years. That kind of stress impacts your ability to think clearly and makes complicated tasks even more difficult, i.e. figuring out technology. It is so frustrating to get into constant technology difficulty, not to mention how time consuming it is. I am embarrassed to have to ask for constant help, so I do try to figure it out, myself, first. So I am asking for some accommodation on the technology thing! Thanks so much!


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