Posts tagged "shoya bowman"

A Mother’s Plea: Stop The Bullying

A Mother’s Plea: Stop The Bullying
By Shoya Bowman Sometimes, situations hit our households in ways that we could never imagine.  I often think about the subject of bullying and just how I would advise others to deal with this type of thing. I was never bullied growing up. In fact, I was one of the more popular kids as I... Read more »

When Jealousy Lives Within

When Jealousy Lives Within
By Shoya Bowman It saddens me when people can’t be happy for other people.  I hear this time and time again from those who have experienced others not being happy about their accomplishments. I’m not referring to that surface happiness, but the deep-seeded happiness that exudes naturally to the surface and not forced. We all... Read more »

Destination Weddings Are All The Rave

Destination Weddings Are All The Rave
By Shoya Bowman Are you a future bride that has the “disease to please?”  Are you struggling with which type of wedding you should have?  Are you pulled in various directions from your future husband, friends and/or family? Well I’ve come to the conclusion that destination weddings are all the rave and I’m so excited... Read more »
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Build your legacy of love and success!

 Build your legacy of love and success!
By Shoya Bowman I recently heard one of the most profound statements ever while watching  Oprah Winfrey interview LL Cool J on the Oprah Winfrey Network.  He said, “Dreams don’t have deadlines.” That statement resonated with me and I’m a firm believer of its truth. It’s Black History Month and while we reflect on individuals... Read more »

Dateless on Valentine’s Day? Try a new approach.

Dateless on Valentine’s Day?  Try a new approach.
By Shoya Bowman Tired of being alone on Valentine’s Day?  Tired of logging on to popular social media sites and seeing flowers from lovers or witnessing couples enjoying romantic evenings filled with love on Valentine’s Day? It can be a bit much especially if you’re wishing that you were on the receiving end of love.... Read more »

Keep Pandora’s Box Shut! Six Brown Chicks

 Keep Pandora’s Box Shut! Six Brown Chicks
By Shoya Bowman We’ve all heard of Pandora’s box.  Haven’t we? Well…my guy often hears stories from family and friends of how I used to be in my past.  He’s heard stories on the surface of how I was this partying, drinking, fun and free-spirited person.  He frequently asks me if he can meet that... Read more »
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A Widow's First New Years Eve

A Widow's First New Years Eve
Dawgelene “Dr Dawj” Sangster- The past 14 New Year eves and days have been spent with my late husband, James Sangster. While I knew many of those times he was working the streets as a Chicago Police officer, I would anticipate hearing his car pull in the driveway around 5A.M. on New Years Day, after... Read more »

10 Signs that You're a Control Freak-Six Brown Chicks

10 Signs that You're a Control Freak-Six Brown Chicks
Hi, my name is Zondra, and I’m a recovering micro-manager. Most micro-managers do not know how bad they are behaving, or that their need to control everything does not empower others to do their best work. For example, my goal with the Six Brown Chicks is to produce an authentic, engaging blog—as a working journalist,... Read more »

Men Speak: 'We Hurt,Too'

Men Speak: 'We Hurt,Too'
By Shoya Bowman I’ve always been fascinated when I speak with men about their relationship troubles.  Why?  Because in the entire scheme of things their issues, complaints and concerns are no different than ours, Chicks. The only difference is how we handle them. Men hurt too and because of this I decided to interview three of my male friends to get a better understanding of the type of hurt they experience, what sparks it and how they deal with the hurt. Ironically, I began writing this blog a week prior to seeing a stage play called, “Five And A Half Men” which gave me confirmation that I was on to something.  The play detailed the struggles that men face while going through divorce or separation. This was confirmation that the time has come for us to hear from men.

When speaking with my friend, I asked him the infamous question, “do men get hurt too?” Mike agreed without hesitation, “Yes, hell yes, all of the time.”

Mike said that men perpetrate and pretend as if they aren’t hurt when deep inside they are, and the charade is an attempt to protect their egos. I asked Mike if he had lost trust in women and he said no, but interjected that it has been tested over the years.  He’s happy to say that he’s found someone that he believes could be “the one.”  Mike prays he doesn’t encounter the kind of hurt he’s felt in past relationships. While Mike’s story turned out to be one of hope, the other two fellas….hmm, not so much. On to my next conversation with my good friend Tyler who is a tad bit bitter because he feels the woman he’s currently with is cheating on him and possibly using him for financial gain. He doesn’t have any proof just that nagging, gut-wrenching feeling.  Tyler’s female friend has hurt him in the past and he admitted that he cried like a baby, but only after the lights were off and when no one was around to witness it. After all, Tyler has an ego and by all means he doesn’t want to taint his manly image.  Still, Tyler can’t get past the fact that women say they want a good man, one that lavishes them with gifts, takes care of their children from previous relationships, wants someone to hold and protect them, spend quality time, give them good loving and so forth and once they have this, they tend to walk all over the guy like a doormat...
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Sex, Love, and Bad Weaves: Our Favorite Throwback Videos 1

Sex, Love, and Bad Weaves: Our Favorite Throwback Videos 1
Happy Tuesday! We’re digging through the WCIU vault and we’ve unearthed some of our favorite episodes. Join us as we venture back in time to the land of (gasp!) racy Six Brown Chicks discussions and terrible, terrible hair days. Enjoy! –Your Six Brown Chicks Ps: These are Zondra’s picks! Zondra: Are Pretty Men Lazy in... Read more »