Betrayed by My Ex and My Relative--and What I Did Next

Betrayed by My Ex and My Relative--and What I Did Next
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By Kierrya Issac

As a woman you would never think that some of the situations that you have to endure would be from the ones that you trust the most. I have been in a lot of what you call difficult situations where I have felt very disrespected not only as a woman, but as a human being.

I came into this particular situation in 2007, while dating my ex; at the time my grandmother had just died from cancer. I guess my ex wanted more from me than I could give.

I remember it like it was yesterday. Not too long after my grandmother was six feet under, he presumed to tell me the next day that he had slept with my cousin. Broken-hearted and confused I felt as if I had been disrespected beyond measure; I responded that we could no longer be together. It hurt of course to let go to what I had held on to for so long.

And then came the drama, from my own blood.

My relative threatened me  over someone that, just as I predicted, cheated on her too. I had never felt disrespected as I did in that moment, but I was soon to learn that just because you have a nice talk and great features don’t mean that you’re all good. As my mom would always say; everything that glitters ain’t gold and is not always good for you. Which brings me to the next person who sweet talked himself into my life and he and my ex shared the same name.

Now, I know what you’re thinking; it should have raised red flags when I found out his name, but I have a forgiving heart and I don’t believe that everyone is the same.

It’s a cruel world, and I would later find out in 2012, when he tried to play both worlds between what was new and what was old. Not only was he my friend, but he was someone who I put too much trust into. Long distance relationships are hard to keep, even though it was only thirty minutes away. He disrespected me by violating my trust and what we had, with a sixteen-year-old girl, (and he was twenty-four at the time).

The teenager called me and explained that he apologized and said that he was in love with the both of us. Now this goes to show you; fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice shame on me, fool me a third time and apparently I hadn’t hit my head hard enough.

I handled these two disrespectful breaches of trust by removing myself from the situations.

If they both wanted others, why not let them be? In my years of youth I have learned to let go and let God. What God has for me no woman nor can man take that away. I believe that my Lord has already predetermined my future.

I just got a little distracted in the process.

Kierrya Isaac is a current senior at Rust College majoring in Mass Communications/ Print Journalism. The Starkville, MS, native is our summer intern.  Follow Kierrya on Twitter @KierryaI.

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