Sisterhood, Feminism and Bitches

Sisterhood, Feminism and Bitches
What about our young girls? Photo: ImageryMajestic.

By Devin Miller

The definition of a sisterhood: The embodiment of feminism, and helping young girls

If I had to put periodicals, TV, and film, in a time capsule for a future generation, I would be reluctant. I would worry how they would perceive women, and how they believed we perceived each other. On any given day, the newspaper, the internet, blogs, and television display images of women, fighting/killing each other; hating each other, and allowing them to be played and ridiculed by men. I hope that the women of the future will somehow regain their sisterhood and understand that there is a war in the media with how we are being perceived and that war is raging in how we respect ourselves and each other.

Sisterhood by definition is:

The close relationship among women based on shared experiences, concerns, etc.
A community or society of women; especially: a community of nuns

Obviously, we can leave the nun part out, but it says so much to me. A sisterhood is a relationship of women who use their shared experiences to benefit each other. We need to be able to count on our sisters to help us through life, to tell us when we’ve made bad decisions, to lead young girls and show them how to replicate this behavior. We should promote excellence within guiding women and young girls based on our own experiences and those of our ancestors. Too many times have I seen women defame each other on social media and call each other out of their name. Do you remember the days of yester year when calling a woman a B#%h was an insult? Now women call each other this, as an enduring term, as a way to express their loyalty towards their friends.

How does calling your best friend a female dog show them that you love them?

I myself have been victim of this in my late teens. I met a guy, who later became my husband who would cringe whenever I said it. He would cringe when I used any foul language for that matter. He would say, “You’re so smart and beautiful, you lose more perfection in my eyes the more you speak like this. You are smart enough to come up with better ways to express yourself.” As a young woman, I wanted to be as perfect as possible in his eyes, so of course I altered my language around him!

Nowadays, when I add younger relatives on social media and I read, B#%H This, she’s a #%#.. I’m not that B#%H.. He’s mine and I can take yours. They need help! I do my part in informing them how I feel, but sadly, my ideals are not the ideals of what’s being portrayed on television. In some cases television is the full scope of how they gain their perceptions.

Are young girls being educated about how to respect others? Are they being taught to appreciate their value? Are they being told about how important it is to maintain your positive reputation?

We need to employ our sisters to be strong and confident, and love who we are regardless of the circumstance.

In order to do this, we need to stop supporting crude behavior in reality television and stop supporting misogynistic behavior in the music. We need to equip girls with respect for themselves and let them know, that hurting each other does not help them gain power. It divides us. A sisterhood is just as important as having a relationship. Just think about all the times a man has hurt you, and you turned to your girlfriend for advice; she is there to keep you. She is the extension to you that keeps you in line when the going is tough, and the one that exalts you when you are at your best.

It is time to stop condemning each other as women and start providing more support.

We are at times dying by our own hand. And so is our reputation, the self-respect of young girls is fading; and we have a responsibility as women to make sure this doesn’t continue.

Young girls need to know the importance of loyalty, honesty and integrity and the mass depiction that I see on a daily basis is not showing me that the women of present day are doing a very good job as role models.

Follow Devin on Twitter @80sBaby_83

Follow Devin on Twitter @80sBaby_83

Chicago's own Devin Miller is a Freelance Writer, Event Coordinator, and Project Manager who has always used creative expression to promote joy and laughter in a world bogged down with serious people, and serious situations. She is a "dreamer and a planner," and truly believes that without both, you should stay asleep. Follow her on Facebook at  www.facebook.com/laura.miller.73997, on Twitter at : @80sbaby_83 and her blog site at http://devinmilleralmost30.blogspot.com/.

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