By A.J. Linton
Love and War…Dating in the 21st Century
Love and War is more than a popular song by WE-TV personality, SHE! ME! HER! Tamar Braxton.
Love and war is a common phrase that seems to come to mind when dealing with relationships in entertainment. You love ‘em and hate ‘em at the same damn time! Often times, when dealing with famous people, war takes center stage more so than love.
It begins to become an issue of time spent, in the words of the over-played Rihanna Love Song featuring Future, “I don’t wanna give you the wrong impression, I need love and affection,” and at the end of the day, the question is, does everybody need love and affection? Or can you make it without? For the I’m every woman, you have developed a mindset that says you can do anything without the help of a man. For other women, you can’t do anything on your own; you have developed a mindset that you can’t do anything without the help of a man.
Both states of mind disturb me as a young woman. We all know there are certain things we can and can’t do without a man but because of being hurt, or our trust was destroyed in prior relationships, our guards are up like the Secret Service. Remember a time, when relationships were as simple as a letter that read: I like you; will you go out with me? Check yes or no. Because we live in an unapologetic society, it has forced us to confront our likes and dislikes about a person before they can even say hello.
The dating game has even changed. The importance of pulling a chair out for a young lady or walking on the outside when crossing the street with her doesn’t seem to exist anymore.
However, women we must take our responsibility in this too.
We can’t be dressed like Rihanna and expect him to treat us like Ruby Dee. Or my all-time favorite women that act like Evelyn Lozada and want to be received like Claire Huxtable, HA! That one gets me every time. And the ever-popular sentence amongst the younger generation, “He said he wanted to take me out, so he met me at my house after 9 p.m. for a movie night.”
Getting back to celebrity relationships, it came to my attention that some of our favorite celebrity couples in today and yesterday’s times were arranged together do to imaging, publicity and/or management. Even as young as Jaden Smith (son of Will and Jada Smith) and Kylie Jenner (daughter of Bruce and Kris Jenner of famed E! reality show Keeping Up With the Kardashians). A supposed source told gossipcop.com, “Pinkett “brokered a deal” with momager Kris Jenner to have Jaden “date Kris’ daughter Kylie Jenner.”
An alleged “TOP SNITCH at a weekly newspaper” tells the blog, “Kris has been trying for months to get Kylie more exposure in the mags.”
This is just sad to me.
So here it is, my unsolicited advice to the celebrities and others reading this article that are in a current relationship, make time for you, guys. Don’t let competition; jealousy or other people (management/career or family) opinions have any space in your relationship.
Create an avenue of peace, when you guys get together, use it as an escape from everything in show business. Build a solid relationship of trust, friendship and loyalty where LOVE not WAR belongs! Young or old, take value in your relationship.
Public relations practitioner AJ Linton is our Hollywood Correspondent. Follow AJ on Twitter @AJ_Linton.
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